Perhaps another way of putting it is that my inner life is real for me.
That means I can fully imagine something and so it becomes real for me.
And when it becomes real for me, I want to make it real for you too.
So I try to share the experience of my inner life with you.
Sometimes this works. And sometimes I am foolishly surprised when it doesn't.
So my inner life, being real for me, now leads me to a life project of making it real for you.
Of course sometimes my inner child becomes frustrated and angry and I tend to withdraw and build up my inner resources.
So I am always looking for ways to marry the inner and the outer.
I am always courting the outer in the hope she will say yes.