The prime means of social control is personal tension.
When we feel emotional or physical pain, we tense our muscles.
Unfortunately even when the emotional or physical pain is gone, we continue to tense our muscles. And so even when the external control has gone, we continue to control ourselves by continuing to tense our muscles.
After a while this seems normal, particularly if those around us are tensing their muscles too. And after a while we forget we are tensing our muscles and experience our muscle tension as stress.
But we don't know how to relieve our stress so we may turn to alcohol or sex or over-eating or compulsive exercise. These do relieve our tension in the short term but increase our tension and stress in the long term.
However we can start to relieve our tension and stress both in the short term and the long term by practising muscle relaxation by clicking on -
YouTube - PROGRESSIVE MUSCLE RELAXATION
And as we practise muscle relaxation every second day, we find our mind starts to relax as well.
And as we start to relax, we begin to become free from social control and we become more ourselves and more ourselves with our friends.
And after practising muscle relaxation every second day, we find ourselves relaxed, refreshed and alert.