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    This gives me hope. Surely even I could make a better father than a 4ft tall 13 yr old.

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    He does look 9. That's insane.

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    I think I've read this before... and it doesn't surprise me...
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    Default A Father: Age 13

    BOY dad Alfie Patten yesterday admitted he does not know how much nappies cost — but said: “I think it’s a lot.”

    Baby-faced Alfie, who is 13 but looks more like eight, became a father four days ago when his girlfriend Chantelle Steadman gave birth to 7lb 3oz Maisie Roxanne.

    He told how he and Chantelle, 15, decided against an abortion after discovering she was pregnant.

    The shy lad, whose voice has not yet broken, said: “I thought it would be good to have a baby.

    “I didn’t think about how we would afford it. I don’t really get pocket money. My dad sometimes gives me Ł10.”

    Little family ... Alfie, Chantelle and baby Maisie

    Alfie, who is just 4ft tall, added: “When my mum found out, I thought I was going to get in trouble. We wanted to have the baby but were worried how people would react.

    “I didn’t know what it would be like to be a dad. I will be good, though, and care for it.”

    Alfie’s dad Dennis told how the lad does not really understand the enormity of his situation — but seemed desperate to be a devoted and responsible father.
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    He wanted to be the first to hold Maisie after the hospital birth. He tenderly kisses the baby and gives her a bottle.

    And Dennis, 45, said: “He could have shrugged his shoulders and sat at home on his Playstation. But he has been at the hospital every day.”

    Maisie was conceived after Chantelle and Alfie — just 12 at the time — had a single night of unprotected sex.

    They found out about the baby when Chantelle was 12 weeks pregnant.
    But they kept it a secret until six weeks later when Chantelle’s mum Penny, 38, became suspicious about her weight gain and confronted her.

    Devoted ... Alfie holds and cuddles Maisie

    After that Alfie’s family told only those closest to them for fear he would be “demonised” at school.

    Chantelle gave birth to Maisie on Monday night after a five-hour labour at Eastbourne Hospital, East Sussex.

    Last night she told The Sun: “I’m tired after the birth. I was nervous after going into labour but otherwise I was quite excited.”

    Chantelle told how she discovered she was expecting after going to her GP with “really bad” stomach pains. She said: “Me and Alfie went. The doctor asked me whether we had sex. I said yes and he said I should do a pregnancy test. He did the test and said I was pregnant. I started crying and didn’t know what to do.

    “He said I should tell my mum but I was too scared.

    “We didn’t think we would need help from our parents. You don’t really think about that when you find out you are pregnant. You just think your parents will kill you.”

    But Penny figured out what was going on after buying Chantelle a T-shirt which revealed her swelling tum.

    Chantelle admitted she and Alfie — who are both being supported by their parents — would be accused of being grossly irresponsible. She said: “We know we made a mistake but I wouldn’t change it now. We will be good loving parents.

    “I have started a church course and I am going to do work experience helping other young mums.

    “I’ll be a great mum and Alfie will be a great dad.”
    Caring ... Alfie bottle feeds his little daughter

    Chantelle and Maisie were released from hospital yesterday. They are living with Penny, Chantelle’s jobless dad Steve, 43, and her five brothers in a rented council house in Eastbourne. The family live on benefits. Alfie, who lives on an estate across town with mum Nicola, 43, spends most of his time at the Steadmans’ house.

    He is allowed to stay overnight and even has a school uniform there so he can go straight to his classes in the morning.

    Alfie’s dad, who is separated from Nicola, believes the lad is scared deep down.

    He said: “Everyone is telling him things and it’s going round in his head. It hasn’t really dawned on him. He hasn’t got a clue of what the baby means and can’t explain how he feels. All he knows is mum and dad will help.

    “When you mention money his eyes look away. And she is reliant on her mum and dad. It’s crazy. They have no idea what lies ahead.”

    Dennis, who works for a vehicle recovery firm, described Alfie as “a typical 13-year-old boy”.

    He said: “He loves computer games, boxing and Manchester United.” Dennis, who has fathered nine kids, told how he was “gobsmacked” when he discovered Alfie was to be a dad, too.

    He said: “When I spoke to him he started crying. He said it was the first time he’d had sex, that he didn’t know what he was doing and of the complications that could come.

    “I will talk to him again and it will be the birds and the bees talk. Some may say it’s too late but he needs to understand so there is not another baby.”
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    Chantelle’s mum said: “I told her it was lovely to have the baby but I wish it was in different circumstances. We have five children already so it’s a big financial responsibility. But we are a family and will pull together and get through.

    “She’s my daughter. I love her and she will want for nothing.”
    Last night Michaela Aston, of the anti-abortion Christian charity LIFE, said:

    “We commend these teenagers for their courage in bringing their child into the world.

    “At the same time this is symptomatic of the over-sexualisation of our youngsters and shows the policy of value-free sex education just isn’t working.”

    Today Sussex Police and the local council's children services said they have investigated the case and pledged continued support for the young parents.

    Britain’s youngest known father is Sean Stewart. He became a dad at 12 when the girl next door, 15-year-old Emma Webster, gave birth in Sharnbrook, Bedford, in 1998. They split six months later.
    Dad at 13 | Boy Alfie Patten, 13, becomes father of baby girl Maisie with girlfriend Chantelle Steadman, 15 | The Sun |News

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    Can someone delete this? I didn't notice there was a thread already.

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    ...Good night.

    Absolutely amazing, having sex at 12 years old.. Moreless all the rest.
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    I've taught a student who was 13 when she had her first child. She has five now, and she's in her early 20s. Several of my students had their first child before they were 15. I'm always amazed by what they've had to contend with and how much they've managed to overcome. They typically have come from very difficult family situations to begin with.

    I haven't clicked on your link yet, but I wonder what makes the story of those two people so amazing it warranted two threads on TypologyC. Teaching here, I hear about this kind of stuff every day.


    I... suppose. Yeah!

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    I looked at the story. My two cents is that this story has made big headlines because:

    1) The kid looks like he's about 8.
    2) The couple is white.


    I... suppose. Yeah!

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    Quote Originally Posted by iwakar View Post
    I was thinking on it a bit more. What if I was one of the grandparents? Then I think, yeah but I'd never let that happen. But let's be honest, it can still happen no matter how attentive and responsible you are to your children. So I return to the question, what would I do if I was in the grandparent's shoes? What if?

    Other than freak out, I'd plan like a mo'fo' probably. I'd start sockin' away a little bit at a time, no matter how small an amount for this kid's future. I'd also force my kid to take parenting classes in school. --I know that my high school actually had a day care at the high school, so that teen parents could take their child-parenting classes at the high school as curriculum and do it with their own children and spend time with them. I thought that was a GREAT program.-- I'd also make the kid work, part-time so as to not interfere with school work. He's too young for even a hardship work permit I suspect, but he could do odd jobs around the neighborhood for friends and family etc. I'd make sure he had a hand in supporting his child. I'm sure the grandparents will have to bear the greatest burden initially, but I'd hope that they would gradually expose the kids to more and more responsibility with each passing year so that hopefully, somewhere between 18-21 they were responsible for the majority of their child's care.

    I know that some grandparents in similar situations opt to take on the child as their own. I have mixed feelings about that, but it depends on the home situation and the maturity and willingness of the teen parent I suppose.

    Lord. Whatever the case, best wishes to all. They'll need 'em.
    Unfortunately, I've been wrestling with the problem of noticing that my youngest sister probably has not maintained her innocense. I have no proof.. but I can almost be sure of it. It's not a lack of parenting, but if a child wants to do something bad enough, they'll eventually find a way to get that said action done. It's just impossible to have every second of the day accounted for.. you hope your child minds you well and you hope for the best.

    Also, we had these programs in high school as well. Too many teen pregos, if they didn't, we'd have a severe drop in female students.

    I wish there was a way to make kids incapable of childbearing until they reach adulthood. If they did, I would use this on my sister. Saying you'll be a great parent and being one are entirely different. The truth is, they won't be great parents at all. They'll be more like their kid's friends, and it's their parents that will raise them all at once. They won't be the supporters, and after about 7 years of all of that (usually the age when kids are settled one way or another into adulthood) the parents will be so used to thinking of the child as their own it'll maintain their responsibility for life.

    Absolutely horrifying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    I wish there was a way to make kids incapable of childbearing until they reach adulthood. If they did, I would use this on my sister. Saying you'll be a great parent and being one are entirely different. The truth is, they won't be great parents at all. They'll be more like their kid's friends, and it's their parents that will raise them all at once. They won't be the supporters, and after about 7 years of all of that (usually the age when kids are settled one way or another into adulthood) the parents will be so used to thinking of the child as their own it'll maintain their responsibility for life.

    Absolutely horrifying.



    Birth control pills work. I'm not sure if that's something your family is against though.



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