Sense of belonging - Page 2

Apollonian · 10-13-2007, 04:31 AM

Apparently, I belong in a cubicle creating object-oriented computer software architecture to solve intricate engineering analysis problems. As it turns out, to this end I have met up with a surprising number of my own kind.

My team:
INTJs - 4! (including myself and the intern)
??TJ (posibly IxTJ boss)
IxTP

I must have done something right when I chose my career. However, it is interesting that I tend not to easily "belong" to any group outside of my career and private intellectual endeavors. Finding people outside of work with whom I can easily relate has been a constant struggle, and lately (do to much encouragement at work) my intellectualism has just served to increase the gap. I am presently trying to figure out if that is something that I should worry about (ie not being able to relate as easily with the world outside of engineering).

AllAboutSoul · 10-13-2007, 05:09 AM

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Originally Posted by cafe

Only with my husband. I belong wherever he is.

Same for me.

Athenian200 · 10-13-2007, 05:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Apollonian

Apparently, I belong in a cubicle creating object-oriented computer software architecture to solve intricate engineering analysis problems. As it turns out, to this end I have met up with a surprising number of my own kind.

My team:
INTJs - 4! (including myself and the intern)
??TJ (posibly IxTJ boss)
IxTP

I must have done something right when I chose my career. However, it is interesting that I tend not to easily "belong" to any group outside of my career and private intellectual endeavors. Finding people outside of work with whom I can easily relate has been a constant struggle, and lately (do to much encouragement at work) my intellectualism has just served to increase the gap. I am presently trying to figure out if that is something that I should worry about (ie not being able to relate as easily with the world outside of engineering).

No, there's nothing wrong with that. Those are just the sort of people you like and are comfortable being around. I find many people to be rather boring. I can be polite to all of them, but that doesn't mean I always enjoy their company.

I'm rather interested in computer programming as well, although I'm more into Psychology and Philosophy at the moment.

tovlo · 10-13-2007, 05:23 AM

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Originally Posted by athenian200

I feel like I don't completely belong anywhere I've been, yet I feel that I have something in common with most people as well.

aeon · 10-13-2007, 08:41 AM

I belong with my beloved.

Namaste,
Ian

Sahara · 10-13-2007, 10:10 AM

I've never felt as if I belonged anywhere. Sometimes I have come close to that feeling, but usually it fades as reality shatters whatever idealised version I was seeing, and I'm back to feeling like a loner and an outsider.

ygolo · 10-13-2007, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Apollonian

I am presently trying to figure out if that is something that I should worry about (ie not being able to relate as easily with the world outside of engineering).

I have found that when I meet new people that steer away from the topic of work and what people do for a living makes people more accepting. If they ask, I say something like "I do work." I think they assume I do odd jobs and finds that more easy to accept. I have no clue why this is so.

When (most) people find out that I am an engineer, they say "Oh, you're one of those." Followed quickly by, "You look like an engineer." WTF?

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10-13-2007, 04:31 AM	#11 (permalink)
Apollonian Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Type: INTJ Location: Near Philadelphia Posts: 127	Apparently, I belong in a cubicle creating object-oriented computer software architecture to solve intricate engineering analysis problems. As it turns out, to this end I have met up with a surprising number of my own kind. My team: INTJs - 4! (including myself and the intern) ??TJ (posibly IxTJ boss) IxTP I must have done something right when I chose my career. However, it is interesting that I tend not to easily "belong" to any group outside of my career and private intellectual endeavors. Finding people outside of work with whom I can easily relate has been a constant struggle, and lately (do to much encouragement at work) my intellectualism has just served to increase the gap. I am presently trying to figure out if that is something that I should worry about (ie not being able to relate as easily with the world outside of engineering).

10-13-2007, 08:41 AM	#15 (permalink)
aeon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Type: INFP Location: Tenkay Lakes Posts: 276	I belong with my beloved. Namaste, Ian