Ladypinkington, I can absolutely relate! I feel the same way about public prayer. I hate it when people ask me to pray out loud. I'm like, "No thanks" and then I get the glare of shame. Faith is very personal to me because it's my relationship with God. Other people can't see my heart. It feels like I'm being forced to have a private conversation with a friend in front of other people who are silently judging my friendship with that person. I hate it.
When it comes to evangelism, I believe each person evangelizes differently according to their spiritual gifts. Some people are not born to be pastors. Some people show their faith by the humble lives they live or the way they love people, etc. This verse has always been encouraging to me when I think my faith isn't as good as the more verbal Christians I know.
"What good is it, my brothers, if a man claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save him? Suppose a brother or sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to him, 'Go, I wish you well; keep warm and well fed,' but does nothing about his physical needs, what good is it? In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead." James 2:14-16
Also, there's a good book called "UnChristian". One quote from it says something to the effect of "If someone decides to reject Christ, does that mean we as Christians should stop loving them?" Obviously, the answer is NO.