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    People should never bray in public. It's undignified.

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    I absolutely cannot do it. I open my mouth and nothing comes out. I can't pray in front of other people. I'm, like, physically incapable. I just keep saying "Sorry, I can't," until they give up.

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    I feel the same as the op, I can't do it either for many of the same reasons. It just doesn't feel authentic. I just can't turn it on and off. It makes me feel like a fraud...like I'm just doing something for the benefit of other people; of what they'll think of me if I don't. That makes the prayer bogus, thus useless.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AllAboutSoul View Post
    I feel the same as the op, I can't do it either for many of the same reasons. It just doesn't feel authentic. I just can't turn it on and off. It makes me feel like a fraud...like I'm just doing something for the benefit of other people; of what they'll think of me if I don't. That makes the prayer bogus, thus useless.
    I used to feel the exact same way.

    Not quite sure what changed. Hummm...

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    I have never felt realistic when I have prayed. Prayer does not come to me naturally. I have had thoughts and felt deeply thankful. I think God understands me deeper than I understand myself. He is all-knowing right? So why should I have to pray? I guess it's like me talking to myself, it serves no real purpose. Only in action and deeds (helping and doing for others) do I feel blessed and not in public displays of affection or showing myself to be religious.

    I guess after giving up on pretty much all traditional forms of ideology. My perspectives have changed a lot. I am sure they will continue to change. Never feel down on yourself for your views, it could be just a small amount of light that shows you where is the doorway to your own type of spirituality.
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    Yes, I relate. Honestly, I don't like church anymore. I feel like I'm on spectacle for everyone. The faith part of my personality likes to be alone. Of course, I like to discuss faith and beliefs with other people, that's fine. But praying in front of others is a big no-no. In fact, most of my 'prayers' are not even traditional prayers. It's more like introspection and analysis, self-dialog to discover self, stuff like that...Meditation, quieting the mind, and allowing ideas to flow. Or even being in nature...

    It's not like, "Oh God you are powerful, so we need to praise and thank you, and now that I've shown how grateful I am, can you please give me shit?"
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    Quote Originally Posted by ladypinkington View Post
    It doesn't feel natural to me and is not one of my gifts and I feel like people are judging me when I do or are appraising my spirituality based on how good of a speech I make to God on behalf of everyone. I have heard people say, wow you can tell this person is really in love with God by how they pray. I don't agree with that.
    This is probably the verse Jeffster was referring to:
    "But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you." Matthew 6:6.

    Praying in front of others isn't some spiritual step you have to take to make yourself a better Christian. Jesus was saying this because there were people that would pray very loudly and publicly so that they would look like "awesome Christians". They weren't, Jesus calls them hypocrites. They were all about what others thought. But that doesn't mean that praying aloud is wrong. I'm a leader at my church, and I often pray for the Junior High boys and girls that I lead. But I don't go up on the stage and yell "Hey everyone I'm going to pray for Jane" and then pray for 10 minutes. You know what I mean? That's an extreme example. But yeah, as far as feeling uncomfortable goes, I have the gift of intercession and I'm still very self conscious praying in front of others. I think that's pretty normal, but you shouldn't let it handicap you.

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    I just want to be me and them be them. I feel that I will have done God a good service by being a good quality friend to that person and trying to live my life according to my principles. I feel like God is the one who saves- not me.
    I've come to realize that ministry happens in the context of relationships. As in, if I go up to someone and say "Do you know Jesus?" And try to engage them in a spiritual conversation, it won't go well. If you're friends with someone, and they see how you live your life according to your principles and how you aren't a judgmental jerk but instead are a good friend, often times they'll want to know more about your faith. That's going to be a much more successful conversation. Sometimes they never will, and that's okay too. You're absolutely right, we don't save people, God does. But He often likes to use us in the process.

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    Sometimes I feel like a spiritual faliure but deep down I feel like I am just different then most others and am misunderstood.
    God made us all different that's part of His awesome plan. We're called the body of Christ. If our body was made up of just feet or livers or something, we'd be useless. God's made everyone with different strengths and that's a beautiful thing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ladypinkington View Post
    I don't exactly understand it really myself, but I really don't like praying publically.

    I feel very selfconscious I guess and I feel like all of a sudden I have to be "ON" for God. I just don't like it.

    It doesn't feel natural to me and is not one of my gifts and I feel like people are judging me when I do or are appraising my spirituality based on how good of a speech I make to God on behalf of everyone. I have heard people say, wow you can tell this person is really in love with God by how they pray. I don't agree with that.

    I don't think it bad to pray publically I just don't think it is for everyone. I admire those who have a gift for it but I just don't have it and don't feel that I fail some kind of litmus test because I don't.

    I am not big about advertising for God so to speak, I am not out to save people- I don't befriend people as part of an outreach to save their souls- I befriend people because I simply like them and they don't have to share my personal spiritual or religious beliefs for me to be friends with them- they don't have to have any at all.

    I just want to be me and them be them. I feel that I will have done God a good service by being a good quality friend to that person and trying to live my life according to my principles. I feel like God is the one who saves- not me.

    I am not very evangelistic at all- it isn't a gift of mine either. I don't like preaching about God but I do enjoy asking questions about God-especially those which cannot be asnswered and asking others about their belief's.

    Sometimes I feel like a spiritual faliure but deep down I feel like I am just different then most others and am misunderstood.

    I wonder if anyone else can relate.
    God is other people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Not_Me View Post
    People should never bray in public. It's undignified.
    I absolutely agree. No one should bray in public. It would be undignified.

    However, praying in public is another matter entirely. It can be very dignified.
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    I never understood why someone should pray aloud. When I was a christian, I preferred to pray silently.

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