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What is a friend to you?

Bella

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Someone who keeps their distance, doesn't talk to much and isn't in the least dodgy.
 

Anja

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Am I far away enough?

Hope I didn't say too much.

*Dodges flying things from Bella's direction.*
 

ajblaise

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Someone who keeps their distance, doesn't talk to much and isn't in the least dodgy.

How distant do you like to keep your relationships from you? Does what applies to who you consider a good friend also apply to how you want your romantic partner to be? just wondering.... *backs away slowly*
 

Bella

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Aaah, you two can come a little bit close, okay.

Yeah, that little list applies to romantic partners as well, I suppose. I don't need all that up in my face and tell me you love me a million times stuff.
Sort of side by side instead of facing each other, if you get what I'm saying.

I think I'm the strong, silent type in a girl's body. LOL.
 

ajblaise

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Aaah, you two can come a little bit close, okay.

*pokes Bella with a stick.. okay it appears to be safe*

Yeah, that little list applies to romantic partners as well, I suppose. I don't need all that up in my face and tell me you love me a million times stuff.
Sort of side by side instead of facing each other, if you get what I'm saying.

I think I'm the strong, silent type in a girl's body. LOL.

Alright I get ya.
 

Dwigie

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A friend is someone I trust, care for, appreciate, feel secure with and respect and who does the same for me.
 

Sinister Scribe

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A friend is someone at whom I can yell if I'm pissed off, who isn't afraid to grab me by the arm or shake me by the shoulders and tell me I'm wrong about something and someone in whom I can actually confide.

True friends are rare. People betray trust or they leave and don't return. I tend not to trust easily and I'm not an easy person to befriend. Sure, I have quite a few acquaintances, but I prefer to spend my time alone.
 

animenagai

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the OP got me interested at 'philosophically'. :p

a true friend is someone who has your interests ranked higher than his personal gain. not only that, you have to accept this love and share it. if someone really likes you and does all this shit for you that could either be really nice or really creepy. if you accept their gift, it's nice. if not, it is creepy. this gift has to be both accepted and shared for a true friendship to grow.
 

Kasper

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For me a true friendship is a two way relationship where there is genuine interest and loyalty for each other, they're the ones who are with you for the good times when you're tearing the town apart but still there when you're down offering their council and support.
 

kiddykat

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A true friend to me is someone who tells me what I need to hear, not what I want to hear- someone who's honest, knows how to keep their promise, watches my back, sticks up for me when necessary, doesn't gossip.

A kindred friend is the type of person I mentioned above, combined with someone who I can relate to on all levels. We share a sense of mutuality, resonance, common values, and most importantly, similar sense of humor. On a deeper level- we also talk about more relavent subjects of interest/current events.

I believe that the important ingredient in most relationships is having the ability to laugh with one another. Despite hardships, humor is a healthy way to release stress. If we share the same sense of humor, it lends a more genuine bond, a longer lasting friendship. It's the simple light-hearted moments that last a lifetime for me!
 

Kaizer

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I've found that a true friend is one who's aspects of personality that I don't have in common with them are complimentary ones.
 

ladypinkington

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A true friend to me, is someone who makes me a better person just by knowing them. They accept you for who you are and yet challenge you to become even better and strive to improve themselves and welcome any contribution you can offer them in that quest.

They listen to you, make you feel important, can accept your love or can receive just as much as they can give. I say the latter because it is important to me and is a sign of trust that a person be able to believe me and appreciate what I have to give to them, if a person cannot receive that shows to me distrust, and that there are emotional barricades.
 

INTJMom

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I'm asking from a philosophical point of view. In your own words, how do you define a friend?

I will not respond to this thread. I'm just interested in different viewpoints.
I will quote my favorite saying about what a friend is to me.
It sometimes attributed to other sources, or considered anonymous, but I think I have the writer's identity.

Oh, the comfort,
the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person;
having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words,
but to pour them all out, just as they are,
chaff and grain together,
knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them,
keep what is worth keeping, and then,
with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.

George Eliot
pen name of Mary Ann Evans
novelist, 1819-1880
 
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