There is a third option: keep your mouth shut and be neither fake nor ugly.I wasn't trying to be funny, just sharing my observation lol
I'll take fake nice over real ugliness any day
That would require me to make assumptions that might have little basis in fact, something I prefer not to do. Better to ask, and be certain. Of course, many people are reluctant to admit their real purpose. That often means it is questionable.
Could you explain what you consider ugly in what I have posted? I would prefer to understand what bothers you, so I can avoid inadvertently giving offense when possible.
I was pointing out that there was a third option in addition to the two you presented, which you or anyone may exercise if they aren't happy with the other two. I have no reason to ask you to shut up, though if I did, the request would be unmistakable.^ your earlier post, just the way you phrased it, I thought you were suggesting that I should shut up, maybe it's only me
If it is any reassurance, I exercise that third option quite often myself - I keep my mouth shut because I know my honest opinion will be poorly received, and I am unwilling to tell someone what they want to hear just for the sake of it. I heartily encourage others to consider a similar approach in such circumstances, which is not at all the same as telling you specifically to do it here. Your honest opinion should be received at least with courtesy here, if not always with agreement.
Now that you mention it, I've wondered that for a long time myself. Nobody has explained it to me in a way that I understand.
Same reason some people used to argue about how many angels could fit on the head of a pin.
In this, I'll have to agree with DB. So often, people mask with niceness when what's underneath is pretty foul.
