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    Don't be a wuss, marry her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lateralus View Post
    She'll be grading my lab work...

    And the title typo is annoying the hell out of me. Can someone fix that?
    I'm glad you asked, but I was just about to edit it when I read your post.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mempy View Post
    I'm glad you asked, but I was just about to edit it when I read your post.
    You're a way better mod than Zergling. /brown nose
    "We grow up thinking that beliefs are something to be proud of, but they're really nothing but opinions one refuses to reconsider. Beliefs are easy. The stronger your beliefs are, the less open you are to growth and wisdom, because "strength of belief" is only the intensity with which you resist questioning yourself. As soon as you are proud of a belief, as soon as you think it adds something to who you are, then you've made it a part of your ego."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lateralus View Post
    She'll be grading my lab work...
    Then make sure you offer her a nice specimen.



    Sorry . . . I couldn't help myself right there.
    "The only time I'm wrong is when I'm questioning myself."
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lateralus View Post
    How bad would it be to get involved with one of your instructors? She's an undergrad instructing one of my labs and we share a couple other classes. There's definitely some attraction and chemistry, but I'm having a difficult time deciding what to do.

    What I'm worried about is this. If I got involved with her, that would probably put her in a compromising position, conflict of interests and all that. Also, what if I'm misreading her? I don't think I am, but if made a move and she's not receptive...that would be extremely awkward. Under normal circumstances, I wouldn't hesitate, but I'm wondering if I should just scrap the idea.
    This semester? Be her buddy. Go out to dinner with her, hang out, but avoid making any huge moves. Once the semester is over, then it's open game. Plus, it gives you time to feel her out without it causing issues.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lateralus View Post
    She'll be grading my lab work...
    Your lab work isn't subjective in nature, is it?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Enyo View Post
    This semester? Be her buddy. Go out to dinner with her, hang out, but avoid making any huge moves. Once the semester is over, then it's open game. Plus, it gives you time to feel her out without it causing issues.
    Problem with that is, I'm out of town, back in Minneapolis, the day after the semester is over.
    "We grow up thinking that beliefs are something to be proud of, but they're really nothing but opinions one refuses to reconsider. Beliefs are easy. The stronger your beliefs are, the less open you are to growth and wisdom, because "strength of belief" is only the intensity with which you resist questioning yourself. As soon as you are proud of a belief, as soon as you think it adds something to who you are, then you've made it a part of your ego."

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    If your biggest qualm is that getting involved with her would unfairly help your grade, how much of a problem do you have with that? Does the idea of her grading you with a bias really chafe you?

    Your lab work isn't subjective in nature, is it?
    And this is the next thing I was going to ask.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lateralus View Post
    Problem with that is, I'm out of town, back in Minneapolis, the day after the semester is over.
    Will you be back for a following semester? Or is this is?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mempy View Post
    If your biggest qualm is that getting involved with her would unfairly help your grade, how much of a problem do you have with that? Does the idea of her grading you with a bias really chafe you?



    And this is the next thing I was going to ask.
    Heh, I would have absolutely no problem with that. My problem is, I don't want either of us to be accused of anything by the school. Let's say I'm sleeping with her and she's grading my work, whether or not that influences her grading is irrelevant if the school finds out and determines that the mere appearance of impropriety is unacceptable. That's my issue.
    "We grow up thinking that beliefs are something to be proud of, but they're really nothing but opinions one refuses to reconsider. Beliefs are easy. The stronger your beliefs are, the less open you are to growth and wisdom, because "strength of belief" is only the intensity with which you resist questioning yourself. As soon as you are proud of a belief, as soon as you think it adds something to who you are, then you've made it a part of your ego."

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