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    Default How does one love?

    seriously?

    sewiously,

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    Love is knowing what is best for oneself and accepting what is best for everyone else.

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    Start with something small, like a puppy, and work your way up.
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    I wish I knew. But I practice a lot with a cat, especially when she vomits furballs onto my furniture if I piss her off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lil_Red View Post
    Love is knowing what is best for oneself and accepting what is best for everyone else.
    How does that process work then?

    Quote Originally Posted by Qlip View Post
    Start with something small, like a puppy, and work your way up.
    I can love animals...I had a cat (mom has it now as I couldn't take care of it due to work), russian blue + tortoise shell + female. Sweetest animal I've ever known. I could cradle her like a baby, rub her belly, and make her so happy she'd follow me around like I was a drug. But it's people I'm not sure about...

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    to love the innocent is easy, as they are deserving of love. They dont have the tools to hurt another, so can be trusted to expose one's vulnerabilities to. To love another human, of the suspicious adult variety, is much more difficult, because they possess the tools, motive and capability to hurt you, should they choose to. Instinctively, one defends against that with all sorts of evasive tactics. To really love another, you must love yourself-which is a dumb ridiculous cliche that doesnt make any sense. What really seems to be needed, is the self understanding and self evaluation of one's own emotions-what do you really need-why do you need it, what does it teach you about yourself? What areas do you need to change and grow and when are you being emotionally unaccountable? Then when confronted by the very real threat of love for another or their love for you-that emotion which renders you vulnerable-you can stand true to that which you are, those needs which are yours-and then their love is not a threat, or your love not a weakness, but instead simply things you each feel on your own for one another, but not threatening to one another. In some sense, it deosnt matter what they feel-because what you feel is perfectly beautiful in being that which it is. just my thoughts though.

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