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    Default How to deal with desire and ambition?

    Pursuing dreams and passions have always lead me to significant heartache. But trying to quell them lead me to feeling dead inside?

    What to do?

    How can one become satisfied with just being alive? What is the difference between this and complacency?

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    Don't quit after a loss. Stay hungry, be patient, and don't wait for your goals to happen, work towards them, create situations where they become more possible. We are our dreams, when we give up on them, we've given up on ourselves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ygolo View Post
    Pursuing dreams and passions have always lead me to significant heartache.
    Really? How come?
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    I recently had the epipbany that the head ache stems fromconflicting false beliefs which cause self sabotage.

    In essence, you punish yourself for your drive because you have been taught youre either unworthy of those ambitions which make you look ridiculous or incompetent while striving to get there or that tve ambitions themselves are somehow the wrong thing to pursue.

    Until you resolve which beliefs are the ones that matter to you and actively remove the dead, festering wood, they ll continue to keep you trapped and rob you of the strenght and resolve needed to focus and do the work.

    Kill the Inner Judge and you ll kill the head ache that steals your drive.

    Know your purpose and settle that internal conflict once and for all.
    For me, it helps to know how it came to be, what i get out of the self sabotage, and if that is worth what im unconsciously sacrificing now.
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    I've had all different kind of things not work out for me, and I just figured out a different road to get where I wanted to.

    Your dreams are too important to let the closing of one road keep you from them.

    Find your own road.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gromit View Post
    Really? How come?
    all life is conditioned to perpetuate itself from the universal will - Pratītyasamutpāda.

    some comprehend this principle innately, and i believe it causes grief to be away from such a force. it is like throwing your achievements at the face of a mountain.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ygolo View Post
    Pursuing dreams and passions have always lead me to significant heartache. But trying to quell them lead me to feeling dead inside?

    What to do?

    How can one become satisfied with just being alive? What is the difference between this and complacency?
    The unreasonable belief that you will endure, grow and learn. That your steps will erode today's insurmontable peaks into gentle valleys tomorrow.
    The simple acceptance that when one falls the only way is back up.
    The crazy, convention denying, rational belief that by trying again and again and again and again you will succeed, be it by skill or sheer luck.

    Lastly: The acceptance that the only person you can control is yourself. The understanding of the power and responsibility that comes with being master of your fate.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sunyata View Post
    all life is conditioned to perpetuate itself from the universal will - Pratītyasamutpāda.

    some comprehend this principle innately, and i believe it causes grief to be away from such a force. it is like throwing your achievements at the face of a mountain.
    I only ask bc I personally find it incredibly satisfying to decide I want to do something or make some sort of change, and then to do it. Even the process of working towards it is satisfying. And overcoming setbacks and that sort of thing.

    Doesn't mean you can't appreciate what you have right now though.
    Your kisses, sweeter than honey. But guess what, so is my money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EcK View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by sunyata View Post
    all life is conditioned to perpetuate itself from the universal will - Pratītyasamutpāda.

    some comprehend this principle innately, and i believe it causes grief to be away from such a force. it is like throwing your achievements at the face of a mountain.
    Jaden Smith has escaped!
    Expression of the post modern paradox : "For the love of god, religions are so full of shit"

    Theory is always superseded by Fact...
    ... In theory.

    “I’d hate to die twice. It’s so boring.”
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    "Great is the human who has not lost his childlike heart."
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