During those 22 years we are learning control.
And at the end of those 22 years we are proud of our control, and our parents are proud of our control.
However if we continue to be proud of our control for the next 50 years, we will never grow up.
So once we have achieved control, we can take it for granted, and start to grow up.
And growing up involves learning to love another and to love our children.