Nothing precious is so easily won. Certainly not true enlightenment and self-knowledge.
By giving responsibility to God to provide you with a partner you don't have to ask yourself important questions. You don't have to do anything but "submit to His will".
If this works for you, then fine.
The trouble is, unless it's universally true, you don't really have a sound basis for believing it, which is why you must attempt to convert others. You must realise that this is only going to go one way though -it's only going to isolate you further and make you more dependent on your religious crutch.
I'm not sure how you have managed to interpret scripture in such a non-heteronormative light. It's very ... creative of you.
I seem to remember lots of verses about homosexuals being burned in a lake of fire....
These are different emotions and it is inappropriate to conflate them. To do so is to suggest that if we love something/one more, we will inevitable pass through a phase of sexual longing for them. Which is distasteful if we are talking about family members and (presumably) blasphemous if we are talking about God.
Who do you think gave us lust/eros? If you believe in a Creator, necessarily you must believe that lust is a gift from God. Provided for the purposes of procreation. Which is only possible between male and female... Who are you to denigrate it and suggest it is somehow inferior? Do you know more than your Creator?
Sex without love can be fully consensual; sex without lust (or sexual desire) is tantamount to rape.
This puts it higher on the 'hierarchy' of loves within sexual union than love, in my view.