Here is something to ponder on, all you philosophical nut-cases (that is a compliment):
In our age where we as humanity attempt to transcend the primal mind, and reach a heightened goal of universal understanding, one has to ponder where relationships fit in to the formula.
Relationships are, by and large, a tangible result of genetic coding with the need to breed and continue the survival of the species; Estrogen as a chemical provides one form of evidence towards that conclusion. However, in the macro scheme of it all, are relationships worth the investment of not only time, finances, and energy, but in our advancement? And at what cost?
If you consider past figures like Nikola Tesla; a genius way ahead of his time; great advances were made, and would have continued to have been made, due to the nature of refusing to engage in relationships (and if people actually allowed him to reach his potential.)
Figureheads like Tesla refused to engage in the chemical bliss that distracts the mind. In fact, he was a virgin through the entirety of his life.
Lust...love...romance...desires of the flesh...all of it is born of the instincts. Are we no better than animals if we engage in such? Would it not be the ultimate failing to engage the primitive mind in its desires? Is not the ultimate goal to reach the pinnacle of thought, knowledge, and understanding?
"But what is all that in comparison to human nature", you may ask. Well, every animal has instincts, and follows them (what else can they do?) But knowledge is something only we as a species can grasp. Furthermore, knowledge is the future of a civilization, and the ability to interact with the universe around us.
Knowledge could one day allow us to manipulate matter and the universe around us at will. Imagine (although it may seem ridiculous, but that word has been used inaccurately in the past) the ability to construct our own stable universe.
What does instinct bring to the table?
That is not to say that instinct isn't invaluable, but in the grand scheme of it all, it doesn't even compare.
To the subjective:
Relationships require conforming to society's standards and rules in that matter, which I think is BS. If you want to play in the sandbox, you are confined to the rules of the sandbox. You need to be adept at knowing what to say, how to say it, what to do, what not to do, and furthermore you need to be engaged in your emotions. That means you need to develop social and emotional intelligence, all of which take a lot out of you (especially introverts). An opportunity cost is therefore presented: The social/emotional game of love and relationships OR Time spent on research/studying/understanding.
As you objectively weigh those two, you have to wonder exactly which is of more value. Relationships can fail; miserably, and to your detriment (emotional wreck/financial difficulties/time and money lost.) Books, knowledge, and understanding, don't do any of that.
To that degree, I can't help but try to understand why people put so much effort into a relationship.
In my subjective perspective, knowledge is power, and is everything. Every event could be mastered, or averted, if you have the correct knowledge at that time. Knowledge is the capstone of civilization and the universe.
Care to discuss your points of view? /Debate