What do you think? When people are making it a point to talk about changes they wish to make in their lives, they are trying to convince themselves?
I guess I have had several experiences in my life where people have been like "this time, I'm really going to change, I'm really going to get my life together" and maybe they are better for a day or a week or couple weeks but then revert back to old habits. I feel like this would happen with my mom a lot. Since I was a teenager I have memories of her saying that kind of thing. Same with my friend I was posting about in another thread about the abusive relationship.
Seems like when people actually end up making changes in their lives it is a much longer process, and there's no "okay this is the moment that I am really going to change" where they announce it.
Like, I could set a New Years resolution for myself, but that doesn't mean I will change my habits or behaviors. It's almost like I just start doing it, then doing it some more, and more, and then I realize, it is a new lifestyle, realize, this is really what I must value, if I'm dedicating so much time/effort to it.
This post is a little all over the place perhaps. I guess I am wondering... what causes people to change?
I am not sure if it is free will or not, because people make goals all the time or say they are going to change all the time and never end up going anywhere with it. Or maybe it is free will at the deepest level or something. I am remembering something else now too, about letting go of baggage and self-judgement in order to change.