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    One of my friends is quite religious and has a religious charity.

    I told her that I'd donate every month (only really because she's my friend and I want to support her).

    Now, she's telling me that I will start to notice that all my wants/desires/prayers/dreams, etc. will start to come true because I am donating now.



    How do I make her stop saying that without offending her?

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    That's hard. Maybe tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable for her to say that?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggly View Post
    How do I make her stop saying that without offending her?
    Who cares about offending her, tell her it's nonsense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggly View Post
    One of my friends is quite religious and has a religious charity.

    I told her that I'd donate every month (only really because she's my friend and I want to support her).

    Now, she's telling me that I will start to notice that all my wants/desires/prayers/dreams, etc. will start to come true because I am donating now.



    How do I make her stop saying that without offending her?
    Tell her you're donating to support her, not because you expect or want anything out of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by senza_tema View Post
    Tell her you're donating to support her, not because you expect or want anything out of it.
    exactly what I was going to say... and point out that if someone is truly being charitable the idea of getting something in return is kind of a turn off as well... might help her out in the long run
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    Oh ISFJ, please just politely tell this person that you're happy to donate but you'd rather not have a conversation.

    Tell her spirituality is a private thing for you and you don't like to talk about it. She should respect that, and that way she won't make it about her.

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    Oh vey. What have I gotten myself into?

    Quote Originally Posted by Marmie Dearest View Post
    Oh ISFJ, please just politely tell this person that you're happy to donate but you'd rather not have a conversation.

    Tell her spirituality is a private thing for you and you don't like to talk about it. She should respect that, and that way she won't make it about her.
    We talk all the time about *her* spirituality (which doesn't bother me).

    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    exactly what I was going to say... and point out that if someone is truly being charitable the idea of getting something in return is kind of a turn off as well... might help her out in the long run
    She said she was going to send me prayers and bible verses by email every day.

    I didn't ask for this though. lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggly View Post
    She said she was going to send me prayers and bible verses by email every day.

    I didn't ask for this though. lol
    you DO know that you can block e-mails without the sender knowing, don't you?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggly View Post
    Oh vey. What have I gotten myself into?



    We talk all the time about *her* spirituality (which doesn't bother me).



    She said she was going to send me prayers and bible verses by email every day.

    I didn't ask for this though. lol
    Ugh is there a way to divert the emails to your spam or trash folder automatically?

    I don't know what to tell you, except to change the subject or to directly say "you know, I don't mean to offend you, but this makes me uncomfortable to discuss this."

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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    you DO know that you can block e-mails without the sender knowing, don't you?
    She sends me other emails too though from the same email address.

    Plus, she's actually one of my best friends. I'm not looking to ignore her.

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