Have you ever said I love you and not meant it?

[Lark]

Does the "premature I love you" spell the end of a relationship?

 

[Nicodemus]

To my mother only.

 

[kyuuei]

Unfortunately, I used to throw the word around way too soon when I was younger. I did mean it with my first two boyfriends--I was very in love with them at the times, and don't regret using it. However, the two after that that I used it with I did not mean it--I knew I didn't, but I said it anyways because it was expected of me. I regret doing that, the word is a powerful one. Learning my lesson, I haven't said it to a man since.

The last date I had (I don't know if I consider something that lasted a month a boyfriend.. A date seems more accurate reflecting back..) used it way too fast, and it annoyed the shit out of me.

 

[Laurie]

I think I've used it to mean "I really love being loving with you"

I had someone tell me they didn't understand why I didn't stay with them if I had told them I loved them.

 

[Aquarelle]

No, I never have. I don't think. I remember one relationship I was in, the guy told me he loved me and I refused to say it back because I "wasn't ready yet." Actually I knew quite well that I'd never be ready with him. . I don't remember if I ever gave in and said it anyway... it's such an awkward position to be in. Since then I've been on the other end of it and it sucked, but I'd still rather that than be lied to, I think. Or tell someone I love them when I don't.

I don't think necessarily the premature "I love you" ends a relationship, but if one person is ready to say it a long time before the other, at least in my experience, it might be a case of "(S)He's just not that into you" and maybe the love is just always going to be unrequited, which usually spells the end of the relationship, eventually.

 

[kyuuei]

I think I've used it to mean "I really love being loving with you"

I had someone tell me they didn't understand why I didn't stay with them if I had told them I loved them.

Always a harsh thing. People assume love is the bricks in the house--but it's only the mortar. You need bricks to build a house, and work and many other things.

 

[Betty Blue]

No i don't think i have. That being said, i do seem to have a lot of love.

 

[Totenkindly]

Never, that i can recall.

It was always very important to me to be honest about such things of deep importance, that someone else was relying on, and that would also commit me to a particular course of action.

 

[Hate]

I have a hard enough time saying that even when I do mean it. So my answer is no.

 

[UniqueMixture]

Yes I have. It's best to say it when you know the other person is feeling it too but is too afraid to say it . (Lol @ me being the only one to have said it and meant it thus far)

Edit: woops didn't see the not haha. Ty [MENTION=10315]Aquarelle[/MENTION]

 

[Oaky]

I used to often hear the spontaneous "I love you guys" among friends in the past.

 

[cascadeco]

I guess it happened with my second boyfriend. At the time, though, I thought I meant it; however upon reflection, I think I was trying to rationalize the feeling the entire time, and think I knew on some level that I was trying to will myself to love him, and it wasn't something I truly felt. It became apparent in the dynamic between us that I didn't really love him, and it ended within 6 months. So I've been very careful ever since not to get into the rationalizing-my-feelings thing, as I'm susceptible to that.

 

[Turtledove]

I have a problem with people at my church throwing it around to others. In my mind I am always like "What purpose do you love me?" I know one guy who is very emotional (more than likely ESFP), effeminate-like, who throws around "I love you" to everyone. I don't like it at all. Perhaps it is more to be a religious service to be Christ-like. You can love everybody, but you don't have to like everybody is my guess, and the concept is when you say "I love you," you will eventually mean I guess what others think.

I made a comment similar to the OP's on Facebook about 3 months ago and said I prefer acts of love instead of your words because actions speak louder than words. Not the exact words, but something along that line.

 

[Thalassa]

Only in my teens throwing it around at friends and acquaintances, I probably said it too lightly or overmuch.

But I've never told a man I loved him and didn't mean it, and as an adult if I say I love you as a friend or a person I mean it.

 

[Jaguar]

No.

 

[1487610420]

Nope.

 

[funkadelik]

To my mother only.

This. Except with my dad.

Sometimes it's just easier that way.

 

[miss fortune]

no... though I've not said it when I meant it

I really don't see why I should have to tell someone... they should know... I almost never tell anyone that I love them, the phrase just feels awkward

 

[ceecee]

No, never. I take that very seriously, it's nothing to just throw out there.

 

[Within]

I said it when I was handling a fuckbuddie who kept insisting on more, it was like flying a kite.