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    Default Accepting your limitations and making the most of what you do have?

    I've been thinking about this lately.

    In some ways, we are the product of the choices we made. But the choices we made in the past gives us the resources that we have to work with now.

    It is generally harder for an adult to learn new things than for a child. Neuroplasticity just goes down with age.

    I sometimes wish I had focused intently on getting good at a few things as a child, instead of just dabbling in a bunch of things. I also wish music has a bigger part of my life growing up.

    But now, as an adult, I am a professional dabbler. I aim to make the best of that.

    Also, I have been needing an amazing amount of sleep, and this has lasted for a long time...at least a year. I sleep on average half the day. Usually 10 hours during the weekdays, and 14 to 19 hours on Saturdays and Sundays. There are some health issues that could be the cause of this, but I don't want to go into detail here.

    So somehow, I have to make the best of my waking hours. I am still figuring out how to do that.

    Of course, I could work a lot to change my patterns (especially the sleep thing). That is another option.

    So, what about you guys? What are the limitations that you have run into? What do you plan to do about them?

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    A number of years ago I became inflicted with a disabling, chronic disease that, even though I have mostly under control now, still limits me in many of the things I want to and can do. And it's taken me quite some time to just come to terms with that fact.

    But, you know, it's all about perspective, right? I appreciate the things I CAN do much more for it. So in a way, that makes it easier to make what I do have count. And I feel like it's made me a mellower and generally better person because I'm all too aware of what kinds of things are important in life and what things aren't.

    As for the things I can't do, I've basically just resigned myself to not being upset if I can't do those things ever again in my life or just adapting them to my life and adapting my life to them. I, like you, usually sleep for around half a day, but I'm just all that much more aware of not wasting the precious conscious time I do have. Doesn't mean it's easy, but it's a concern. It requires more planning than I'm naturally inclined to do, but I am training myself to do just that. To maximize economy of production in my life.

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    I'm sorry but i don't like your title. It's a defeatist attitude

    I believe the idea of one's limitations can be a dangerous thought process.

    Now i'm going slightly off track here but ..
    Why should one accept their limitations? Does this imply that an individual tried every resource available thus reaching a conclusion based on their limitation? Should age/health be a factor?

    No .. I think everyone (if they chose to) should go out there, try different experiences and if they reach a conclusion then brill, it not then continue looking for something to inspire.

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    Harrison Ford became an actor in his 30's
    Conel Sanders didn't start his chicken empire until his 40's
    Sylvester Stallone wrote 'Rocky' when he was 30
    Julia Child took 40 years to find her true passion of cooking
    The first edition of Roget's Thesaurus was published when Peter Mark Roget was 73.

    Some find their niche early in life .. I'm still looking, but i sure as hell am not going to limit myself and the possibilities due to some past mistakes/thinking, i am going to forge on and look for further inspiration, in whatever shape or form it comes in
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    Well one of my great strenghts is I pretty much refuse to accept limitations - if I want to take a shot at something I do. However, its also a weak point. Sometimes it gets my in over my head and often presses me to the limits of mental and/or physical capability. Over all I think its a net positive however.

    RE: sleep. That is abnormal. I'd really speak to a doc about that - seriously. 19 hours? 10 hours during the week? I get by with 6.5 - 7.5 during the week and 8.5 on a lazy, "sleep in" weekend. There may well be some underlying medical condition at work if you need that much sleep.
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    I often find myself dwelling on things I can't change. Sometimes I wish I was 21 again. Sometimes I wish I had a more outgoing and charismatic personality. Sometimes I wish I was thinner with a different body. Sometimes I wish I had different parents. Dwelling on what you can't change does no good and wastes time. I focus on my strengths and put a positive spin on my limitations. Sometimes I imagine what life would be like if I had the things I wished for. Sometimes the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
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    Grrr....NEVER accept limitations. You don't know what they are, and you'll end up putting a false deadend sign.

    Recently, I wanted to learn how to play the violin (I love that instrument). Never had lessons as a kid, now 21. Got turned down by two music teachers because I was "too old" to be of any value. The third one took me - and now, 3 months later, I'm at a Grade 4 level. (Out of 8). Within a year, I'll be ready to perform around the city, hopefully at a G8 level. I think going pro requires intensive full-time study for years, but other than the time constraint, I don't see how it's impossible.

    Anyhow, don't listen to naysayers who say the brain crystallizes after puberty. Studies and anecdotal evidence say otherwise!

    Just think of people becoming fluent in a foreign language after immersion. Our minds were DESIGNED to adapt to the environment - it makes evolutionary sense, too! Humans didn't always live in a static environment. We had to be able to learn, change, adapt, be resourceful with what was around us.

    If you want it, you're perfectly capable of getting it. And just think, you'll always get farther aiming for something than for nothing - even if you don't hit your exact target.
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    As I get older, I see limitations in my own behavior as well. I think you can change, if you try very very hard. Make habits of things that are well out of your comfort zone. Create new neural connections while, (hopefully) breaking down and weakening some of the thicker and well established ones. But if you're not self-aware, you just end up in these terrible patterns. My limitations tend to be fear/ laziness/ anxiety. Same as you, wanting to dabble and getting all these wonderful ideas about all the things I can get into, getting into them full force and not following through. These are the few things that seem to be hard to overcome for me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by saslou View Post
    I'm sorry but i don't like your title. It's a defeatist attitude
    I disagree. It's a liberating attitude. It's one that allows you to let go of those things you can't control, and harness your energy toward the things you excel at.

    I believe the idea of one's limitations can be a dangerous thought process.

    Now i'm going slightly off track here but ..
    Why should one accept their limitations? Does this imply that an individual tried every resource available thus reaching a conclusion based on their limitation? Should age/health be a factor?
    You accept your limitations because that's how you prevent yourself from tilting at windmills. That means learning how to distinguish between true limitations and where you limit yourself. You only learn the distinction through experience and being willing to go outside your comfort zone.

    Of course age and health is a factor. You can only do so much with the cards you're dealt.

    No .. I think everyone (if they chose to) should go out there, try different experiences and if they reach a conclusion then brill, it not then continue looking for something to inspire.
    That's part of the process of accepting your limitations.

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    Harrison Ford became an actor in his 30's[/quote]

    He actually started right out of college, but did not get anywhere under the old studio system. He was limited because he could only act realistically to the part, rather than exude "stardom" like the studio heads wanted at that time. It was only with the changing of the guard, and the rise of the New Hollywood of the 1970s that he could surpass those limitations.

    Conel Sanders didn't start his chicken empire until his 40's
    Col. Sanders could not have produced his chicken at nearly a rapid enough rate until the invention of the pressure fryer. Up to that point, he did it the best he could - slowly, serving only a few people at a time. He accepted his limitations, until those limitations changed through no effort of his own.

    Sylvester Stallone wrote 'Rocky' when he was 30
    Stallone wrote a story about an underdog being given one last shot primarily because that's what he was when he wrote the play, as a starving actor (without a star's good looks, due to birth complications) with almost no hope. Rocky was almost entirely about accepting one's limitations - Rocky knew that he could not beat Apollo Creed, so he would strive to do what he knew he was capable of: withstanding life's heavy blows, and going the distance when others would have bowed out earlier.

    Julia Child took 40 years to find her true passion of cooking
    Julia Child only developed that passion because of her life's great sadness - her inability to have children of her own.

    The first edition of Roget's Thesaurus was published when Peter Mark Roget was 73.
    He had also been at it since he was 26 years old. Truth is, he was very limited by the amount of information available to him in his day.

    Some find their niche early in life .. I'm still looking, but i sure as hell am not going to limit myself and the possibilities due to some past mistakes/thinking, i am going to forge on and look for further inspiration, in whatever shape or form it comes in
    Accepting one's limitations doesn't mean limiting possibilities. It means understanding that some things aren't possibilities - they're simply not happening. It means being able to distinguish between what might be and what will never be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by onemoretime View Post
    I disagree. It's a liberating attitude. It's one that allows you to let go of those things you can't control, and harness your energy toward the things you excel at.


    You accept your limitations because that's how you prevent yourself from tilting at windmills. That means learning how to distinguish between true limitations and where you limit yourself. You only learn the distinction through experience and being willing to go outside your comfort zone.

    Of course age and health is a factor. You can only do so much with the cards you're dealt.



    That's part of the process of accepting your limitations.
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    I agree with that. It's nice if you want to do something completely weird in comparison to your original chemistry, it seems like you can still do that, but it's even nicer if you can see your own strengths and weaknesses from a young age and work on whatever your strengths are. Seems like you excel at a quicker pace.
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