There's that idea again, being yourself. Where does that come in? I thought trust was about being vulnerable or something. When I think of being vulnerable, I usually think of putting yourself at risk of physical harm, financial ruin, or being forced to associate with someone against your will. I haven't really met people who expect me to make myself vulnerable to them in those ways. Castigation can't really harm me, unless there really are no laws that don't depend on people liking me, in which case it could literally be fatal. You know, lynching? You are beginning to see why I think laws that aren't subjectively interpreted are necessary, right?Trust isn't the reason, it's the tool. I would tend to agree that it doesn't make much sense to make yourself more vulnerable than is necessary, but what is necessary, and what are you trying to accomplish? If it's real friendship that you seek (and I think you probably do) then vulnerability is a necessary element. By vulnerability, I don't mean you expose your wounds. I simply mean that you let down your guard and take the risk of being yourself and being castigated for that.
I don't know how to see something without judging it. It's almost as if I have to judge something as good or bad just to be aware of it. I'm aware of things I consider bad, however. I usually only discuss goals, it's kind of foreign to me to discuss how something is done, rather than what should be done. Why is it impossible to judge something as bad, but then tolerate it's existence grudgingly? Doesn't that basically have the same result as acceptance, except that with the first one, you'd make things better if you had the chance, but with the latter, you'd just not care one way or the other?Eh. I would agree with you that considering what is here to be "good" is fallacious thinking. With that said, I don't think acceptance means seeing things as justified or good. It simply means seeing it. Period. You're still stuck in value judgments, and acceptance refrains from those judgments. As soon as you make a judgment, even calling something "good," you're already implying the non-acceptance of bad. Same goes for "justified." I would argue that this is shallow acceptance, or not acceptance at all.