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    I agree with the concept that the two main reasons are an assertion of power, as is humankinds way of rising above another and the fear of losing that power.

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    I would like to *hope that people are not intentionally mean but rather they have issues such as insecurity, childhood trauma's etc which make them behave the way they do as they have not been addressed. Those who have been purposely mean to me, i try and look at their behaviours and *hope that karma bites them on the ass to the power of three.

    *hope is not reality though.
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    Entertainment, social gain, to combat feelings of inferiority.
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    Assertions of dominance are to be expected by social animals, and these assertions are rarely well-received by the losing party.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beargryllz View Post
    Assertions of dominance are to be expected by social animals, and these assertions are rarely well-received by the losing party.
    Yes, that is why various societies have complex and subtle ways of expressing dominance and deference.

    And the way of expressing dominance and deference are different in different societies.

    And where the ways of expressing dominance and deference in our own society are taken for granted, they is all but invisible in other societies.

    And this is why we have continual misunderstandings between those from different societies.

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    Some people are selfish and weak. They aim to feel more powerful by putting other people down, and lifting their own rank in the social pecking order.

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    Some people try to get other people to feel their emotions for them because they cant handle the emotions themselves, like the kid who someone laughs at who immediately turns to another and makes them a laughing stock instead. Affective idiots.

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    Lack of empathy coupled with not being given enough affection.

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    People are mean when they have a constant need prove and validate their own sense of power. (as others have said)

    Quote Originally Posted by Beargryllz View Post
    Assertions of dominance are to be expected by social animals, and these assertions are rarely well-received by the losing party.
    It is important to note that the categories of "mean" and "dominant" are not synonymous. Dominance is also a quality of charisma and positive reactions. Social creatures require cooperation, so intentionally harming one in a group requires a net positive response from that group. Meanness is also alienating by nature, and very often alpha animals are granted their position by their natural dominance of strength and capability and not simply their willingness to harm other members of their community. An alpha that is too "mean" will tend to absorb the resources of the group and cause its destruction. Regardless of how strong or mean a single member of a group may be, in social animals there is always the possibility of the group joining together to resolve the imbalance of power, so that can place a natural limit on "meanness".

    Example: We have three large dogs that are of dominant breeds, and so our family functions much like a dog pack. My role is to assert dominance to be one of the alphas. This requires raising my voice at times and demonstrating strength. This is to impose order because I know myself to be the capable leader. There is nothing in the dynamic that is related to a desire to harm. Many times alpha animals instinctually know their capabilities and that their pack will survive best with them as leader and so their show of strength is in place for a net effect of help for the group. The more submissive members of the group do not accept this strength with personal suffering. Dominance is often reassuring just as it is for children who suffer when a sense of order and capable dominance is not demonstrated.
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    I think there are many possibilities. My theory is that several things may be at play:
    - they are unhappy people and misery loves company
    - they have been hurt in the past and are treating others in the way they have been treated themselves or are taking this hurt out on others
    - they are insecure and are mean to others to feel more powerful or secure
    - they lack empathy and may not even aware they are being mean
    - they are a sociopath
    - their ego and sense of self importance is out of whack

    These are a few. I think there can be lots of reasons.

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