But from my perspective of growing up (late teens) I admit I've found myself occasionally laying the smackdown. And felt the other people fully deserved it. It's kind of odd, since I truely feel physical agressiveness is never good for anything. But then again, especially immature people, simply don't listen to words. It feels like smacking them around is the only way to get them to pause and think about their actions.
Ofcourse, that's just wishful thinking, and smacking them around only makes them more angry and more willing to get the revenge.
But then, how do you get out of such a situation passively?
If you're cornered, the people won't listen, and they are prepared to smack you around, would you really let them? I wouldn't, I would smack right back.
It's easy to feel cornered when being a teen, much easier than it would be to corner me now. You got your reputation to consider. Don't want to be known as a coward in school, etc. So when someone challenged me in some way, I always accepted the challenge. Had I been the passive guy running away all the time, I'd probably be subject to psychological warfare. And it seemed that getting in an occasional fight, or at the least stand your ground, prevented that.
Anyways, no, never justified. But I can think of situations where the results of fighting are better than not fighting. >.>
You're going to think this is librull word-splitting but I think the word "deserve" is the sticking point here. There are definitely times when a good clocking is necessary (self-defense is the only one I can think of at the moment) but it isn't exactly because the person "deserves" it. It's a practical matter, to get them off your back so you can get away.
So practically speaking, yes, it can be necessary. But ideologically speaking there's really never a reason for it IMO. Doesn't mean I don't sometimes WANT to club someone with a deer antler but I manage to hold myself back most of the time.
I tripped over the word "deserve" as well because that implies punishment more than problem solving. It equates the person with the behavior, which can lead to endless problems including dehumanizing. It brings to my mind the following quote:
HG Wells: The first man to raise a fist is the man who's run out of ideas.
The first man to raise a fist is the man who's run out of ideas. H.G. WELLS
The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool. FEYNMAN If this is monkey pee, you're on your own.SCULLY