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    Default Be Careful What You Wish For...

    Because, you may receive it.

    I have been thinking about those words for a bit and wondered if anyone here had experienced this.

    Have you ever wished for something, received it, and then no longer wanted it? Why did you change your mind?

    There are many reasons that I can think of, but I would like to hear everyone's thoughts and experiences on this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lux View Post
    Because, you may receive it.

    I have been thinking about those words for a bit and wondered if anyone here had experienced this.

    Have you ever wished for something, received it, and then no longer wanted it? Why did you change your mind?

    There are many reasons that I can think of, but I would like to hear everyone's thoughts and experiences on this.
    I am a big believer in making my dreams come to life.

    If I wish for something, that means that I am initiating a series of thoughts and activities which I will execute until my wish is realized.

    Because of that, I am aware that my want for something will result in work on my part in attaining it.

    Then I think about the work, and determine if the wish being realized is worth the effort. If it is, I do what i need to make it happen. If it isn't, I let it be at that, and move on.

    There is a big difference between wishing for something and having the magic of the universe grant it to you without any work on your part, and recognizing a wish as an internally synthesized desire that compels you to do the work necessary in making it happen.

    I can't think of any major event in my life that I busted my ass to make happen, and regretted it later.
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    My friends like to make fun of me for whining about not getting something, getting it and then whining that I got it. So apparently I do it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lux View Post
    Have you ever wished for something, received it, and then no longer wanted it? Why did you change your mind?
    Sort of. I learned a long time ago not to wish for much. Things have always come to me, good things, but they're mostly meaningless to me. So, I guess I've gotten my wish.

    I see wanting and wishing for something similar to being a kid in a candy store when all you've done for quite a while is wishing for loads of candy. At first it is seemingly unbelievable satisfaction and excitement but it wears off pretty fast because what's supposed to happen now? Before all that you had focus, drive to work towards something but now there appears to be nothing, you're satiated and all that you wanted seems like a burden.

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    I have done that a lot of times. You know how it is, everywhere you go you go too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    I am a big believer in making my dreams come to life.

    If I wish for something, that means that I am initiating a series of thoughts and activities which I will execute until my wish is realized.
    I am like this as well. I tend to make things happen.

    There is a big difference between wishing for something and having the magic of the universe grant it to you without any work on your part, and recognizing a wish as an internally synthesized desire that compels you to do the work necessary in making it happen.

    I can't think of any major event in my life that I busted my ass to make happen, and regretted it later.
    I agree that if you for work for something you are much more apt to really want it. Or at least to not be disappointed in it. I work for what I really want in life. I make things happen, as much as I can.

    I have wished for something, received it, and then been unhappy with it. However, it wasn't out of fear or anything like that, it was more that I was wrong in my expectations.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sky is BLUE! View Post
    Sort of. I learned a long time ago not to wish for much. Things have always come to me, good things, but they're mostly meaningless to me. So, I guess I've gotten my wish.

    I see wanting and wishing for something similar to being a kid in a candy store when all you've done for quite a while is wishing for loads of candy. At first it is seemingly unbelievable satisfaction and excitement but it wears off pretty fast because what's supposed to happen now? Before all that you had focus, drive to work towards something but now there appears to be nothing, you're satiated and all that you wanted seems like a burden.
    Have you ever worked for something and then not wanted it? It this part of having expectations that are too high. Not you personally, but in general?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lux View Post
    Have you ever worked for something and then not wanted it? It this part of having expectations that are too high. Not you personally, but in general?
    Sure. And I agree, it is about too high expectations. It's like you're setting up a certain milestone for yourself to reach and you are building up your expectations, dreaming of how it should be like, feel like, to the very last detail and when you reach that point...it's nothing like you imagined. It can be better, it can be worse, it can be completely meaningless.

    Can't the realization that it's not what you wanted be an indication that, along the process, you've fooled yourself into believing that it is something you want and ignoring the signs that it's really not? Just a random thought that just popped into my mind.

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    eh.
    there are all types of achievements. goals are needed to survive. they bring momentum and movement. sometimes, achieving a goal brings a sense of loss and disorientation - questions of "what next?" permeate. sometimes, the nature of what you wished to acquire is revealed in an unpleasant light. oscar wilde said, "there are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it." there is creative tension in toil. just be in constant movement, that's all. learn from everything, learn from your desires. "wanting" and the expectations that goes along with certain accomplishments is tied into all sorts of happiness studies, spirituality, etc. we are irrational creatures. nothing makes sense.

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    This adage is relevant to situations where one is naive to all that his or her desire truly encompasses, due to tunnel vision.

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