There is more to nurturing than raising children, cooking dinner, and doing laundry. Also, I never said you were feminine, even if the fact that you are outwardly feminine is good reason to think you are inwardly feminine. It doesn't seem you believe in God, but if you did, then you'd have to grapple with why he made you as you are both outwardly and inwardly. It's not your fault that you were created as you are, but you have a responsibility to discover what you are, the talents that find their origin in your being, and to use your talents wisely.
I'm not sure what you mean when you write that women's having power over anything implies that men should be ashamed; I didn't write that, and I don't see how that is entailed by what I wrote. Women, (i.e., feminine persons), can and should have power over some things, and men, (i.e., masculine persons), can and should have power over some things. Some of these areas of power overlap; some do not.
Even if you were feminine, I didn't say you don't have a right to a leadership position. Under the right circumstances, you'd be obligated to take a leadership position. But, if you were feminine, would you enjoy fulfilling a masculine role? I don't think so. I think you'd find it burdensome, and if you had to do it, your doing it would be a personal sacrifice made out of love.