briochick, I was once apart of a church that started portraying the same conclusions.
This is not a problem with Christianity but with the church. What they're doing is religious.
Martin Luther rightly said that, as sinners, we are prone to pursue a relationship with God in one of two ways. The first is religion/spirituality and the second is the gospel. The two are antithetical in every way.
Religion says that if we obey God He will love us. The gospel says that it is because God has loved us through Jesus that we can "obey".
Religion says that the world is filled with good people and bad people. The gospel says that the world is filled with bad people who are either repentant or unrepentant.
Religion says that you should trust in what you do as a good moral person. The gospel says that you should trust in Jesus because he is the only good and truly moral person who will ever live.
Religion is about what I have to do. The gospel is about what I get to do. Religion sees hardship in life as punishment from God. The gospel sees hardship in life as sanctifying affliction that reminds us of Jesusí sufferings and is used by God in love to make us more like Jesus. Religion is about me. The gospel is about Jesus.
Religion leads to an uncertainty about my standing before God because I never know if I have done enough to please God. The gospel leads to a certainty about my standing before God because of the finished work of Jesus on my behalf.
Religion ends in either pride (because I think I am better than other people) or despair (because I continually fall short of Godís commands). The gospel ends in humble and confident joy because of the power of Jesus' life for me, in me, through me, and sometimes in spite of me.
I normally wouldn't use this amount of Christianeese, but I figure you're used to it and can digest it. Like a slum child building up anti-bodies to bacteria. Because Christianeese is equivalent to bacteria.
Now go read some Kierkegaard and tell the people at that church to suck it.