It's also ironic because 10-15 years ago, I think I was writing posts that aren't a lot different than what you're saying here. If one thing was beaten into me by my childhood, it was an excruciating T-rigor of responsibility. I was pretty merciless in how I judged others and ever far worse in how I judged myself, and there were no excuses for any choice that was below the rational ideal. I was pretty relentless in my beliefs this way, and it really affected the quality of my life and relationships for many years. I had the same opinion on the abortion topic as what you describe in your posts.
One of the things that changed is that, earlier in life, I thought I had all the answers and the "right way" to view the situation. Later, I realized many of my conclusions were drawn based on my own values, of which I did not have actual hard evidence, and while it's necessary in life to fight for what I believed to be true, I also had to be fair and respectful of people who had different values if I perceived they were attempting to the best of their ability to be true, virtuous, and responsible for their decisions. (I don't know how better to qualify that statement right now.)
I don't think you still yet see the inflexibility within your perspective... the sense that you have the only handle on truth here and so you can judge others as harshly about what is responsible and what is not as you'd judge yourself if you were in this position and chose to abort.
I totally believe you when you say in a later post that you wouldn't abort, although obviously you will never be in that situation yourself, directly. Your commitment to this particular position is very evident to me. And it's very admirable to me that you would do that. You're certainly not a hypocrite.
The point, though, is that it is not your responsibility to decide for other people what their responsibility should be. You can decide what your responsibility should be, and you can have a strong opinion about what their responsibility should be, but taking responsibility for other people by controlling their behavior or treating them as deficient/irresponsible in your mind if they choose another path for whatever reason seems like a lack of humility to me (just like I judge myself for that period of my life when I held similar views, I lacked humility in some crucial ways) and diminishes/undermines potential dialog and growth for everyone. The rigor of the position you're expecting others to adhere to is not realistic for many, it's only realistic for you and those like you, and so you're going to have to find a different way to approach it if you want to help people embrace the solution(s) you value.
Gee. Do not put yourself down like that.But don't mind me, I'm just a right wing nut.
I actually found your last number of posts here extremely brave and insightful, and I think you've added a lot to the conversation. Even if I disagree with some of your premises, I've seen very few posts that were worded so well, strongly, and coherently; and if they weren't, I wouldn't waste my time responding to them. You've definitely helped boost this conversation to the Next Level, whatever that is.