well it's because the truth can hurt, so if I go around telling everyone I know more about something than them then it's only going to make them hate me.
So it all depends on the person, if they can handle the truth without hating the hurt.
I agree the truth can hurt. But I feel very strongly that these kinds of pain are important. And sheltering people from it is, to me, the same as disrespecting their 'entire being'.
"Modesty is a flower that does not grow in every garden."
-Ralph Quinn (my brilliant friend and comrade)
***NOTE: As per Ralph, you can substitute any "Virtue" for "Modesty" above and nullify its existence with a puzzling amount of tact.
That is all.
-Halla
Hah yes, but that would basicly mean you are manipulative. That wouldn't work very well with my conscience.
But why even ask the question then? If you want your husband to tell you that you are beautiful, you should just tell him to say that. I'm seriously not getting this... Wouldn't you want your husband to save you from potential embarrassment?
That's just it, I can't find any reason that justifies dishonesty. Dishonesty in order to gain affection even feels like a form of (mild) rape to me. I just can't accept it, not in a relationship.
Because "Fat" in that context doesn't always mean adipose tissue, it's often a metaphor for undesirable, unworthy, unattractive, lazy, greedy, stupid, out of control, weak.
I assume the woman wants reassurance that she is none of those things.
I don't have ulterior motives in a relationship. Being honest does not mean saying one thing while it may mean something else. My partner should never assume I have ulterior motives and if she finds my reasoning questionable she should just ask me about it. However, the fact that "Fat" may mean other things is not a reason for me not to be honest.
The issue of modesty? Well, put it this way - normally every person have an awareness (mutually) to what the Truth really is, which as we know it for this world is not one to face with real confidence. You can do so much but the world never really makes one any more satisfied with that Truth - so to speak of modesty, it really is one of the most appropriate ways of dealing around that Truth.
... So, I would think that the attitude to modesty varies across person to person.
I agree that truth, being subjective, is not something to go lightly about. But ultimatly it is important to me to be as close to the truth as I am capable of. But it is also important not to get stuck up on truth without seeing all sides to it. Because you may inadvertedly burn yourself badly with it. That is to say, always try to look at it from all perspectives. But entirely ignoring it is no option. If the truth is just shrouded in mystery. A middleground may still be found. But if you are to question truth always, you might as well say nothing at all. And that wouldn't be very productive either. You have an identity, you have a sense of truth. You base it on your life's experiences and thoughts and you should be able to trust that truth.
That said, I don't claim to always be right. And that honesty is infallable. Because I am not, and it isn't. But I am as right as possible to my abilties. And if I am proven to be wrong, I aim to rectify it and learn from it.