My biggest challenge in life, currently, is a nagging feeling like the situation I'm in isn't right and can be improved. In happens in at least 2 major key areas of my life: relationships and career.
With relationships, I'll be seeing someone and begin to feel like the person isn't "right" for me and there's something better out there that's more fitting. I end up meeting someone new and think they might have that thing that I'm missing in my current relationship. The same thing happens with my career, where I begin to see the shortcomings of my career, usually boredom, and end up thinking that there's something better, something without flaws, that is out there. So, I change careers, and eventually find disappointment there, too. I see the same patterns in other areas of my life, too.
I don't like this pattern/loop because I want to deepen both my relationships and career, and can't when I'm constantly shifting things around. On the other hand, some things really aren't a good match; some partnerships as well as some careers don't resonate with your core. What I'd like to know is how you've dealt with the question of settling. Specifically, how do you distinguish between real mismatches and neurotic idealism?