My mom gave me one side, my dad just would never even discuss it; and all I got from my peers was the same side as my mom. And they also basically told me that either I believed in Jesus and the Bible the way they did, or it wasn't Christianity -- so I did not have any room for interpretation. I either had to do it their way, or reject God.
That is a big burden to carry, and I struggle with guilt right now. Have I rejected God? Am I an infidel? Am I misleading people around me? Am I a disappointment to my friends and family?
No one is actively saying all of these things, but it is how I feel inside.
(If I had to guess about my own faith as to where it's at now, I believe in all the same general principles, but without all the specific do's and don'ts of conservative Christianity. I am more interested in how people relate than whether or not a particular thing is accepted or forbidden. And if I am damned for that, well, I cannot get around it.)
Mmm hmm. You want to equip them, I think, so that they can be autonomous and make their own decisions because you will not always be able to be there for them. It is possible that they can find some version of faith that fulfills them and works for them, that would not necessarily be your ex's faith at all.I was a bit gung ho, guns a blazing when I first started out, but I see now that I can not impress my lack of faith on them anymore than my ex can impress his faith on them, I must achieve a balance, so that I do not fill them with the same confusion I went through.