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    Quote Originally Posted by nolla View Post



    I'm thinking much the same way. Would this be an example of me and you giving up control while Darjur haven't?
    We truly never know what will happen in the next moment, so from my perspective you can't give up something you never had. Control of one's life is an illusion designed for a sense of security. 'sokay. Different strokes for different folks.


    On the other hand you can choose to try to direct your life or you can be lazy. Plan plans, not outcomes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mycroft View Post
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    Essentially none. A leaf blowing in the wind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anja View Post
    We truly never know what will happen in the next moment, so from my perspective you can't give up something you never had. Control of one's life is an illusion designed for a sense of security.
    Yeah, I agree.

    BTW, you are so far the only one voting less than me. (I expect you went with 20%)

    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    I can choose what emotion to have in response to each specific situation.
    Can you elaborate. From my perspective this is about the same as someone saying they can fly like superman. Emotions are very much out of control. The actions are somewhat in our control, but emotions... they can be restrained for a while but eventually they will "outpower" us.

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    I put 30%, because I'd say it's a more realistic average than 0%. Theoretically, though, you have no control over the actions of others. If we limit "control" to the physical world, I have an extremely small amount of control, limited only to the strength of my body (vs possible billions). However, you could say that you have control over your mental world. While this is somewhat true, your mental world becomes overidden when the physical one is in danger (the mind being dependant on the body), so by controlling your body someone has control over your mind.

    So if everyone where to rise up against you, you would have 0% control over your life. There is always a possibility of this happening. Realistically, though, this chance is extremely improbable, hence my 30% rather than 0%, but if we wanted to be very precise, I would say 0%.
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    Quote Originally Posted by nolla View Post
    Can you elaborate. From my perspective this is about the same as someone saying they can fly like superman. Emotions are very much out of control. The actions are somewhat in our control, but emotions... they can be restrained for a while but eventually they will "outpower" us.
    No problems

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezion View Post
    I put 30%, because I'd say it's a more realistic average than 0%. Theoretically, though, you have no control over the actions of others. If we limit "control" to the physical world, I have an extremely small amount of control, limited only to the strength of my body (vs possible billions). However, you could say that you have control over your mental world. While this is somewhat true, your mental world becomes overidden when the physical one is in danger (the mind being dependant on the body), so by controlling your body someone has control over your mind.
    That's an interesting attitude. I like it. The thing I would like you to consider is this: The other people are (usually) as lost as you or me. This means that there are very few individuals who are capable and willing to control anything, really. So, that leaves you relatively more control than you would suspect. This is actually the only basis I have for claiming to control any bit of my life. If the "normal" people were really conscious of their possible capability, there would be no room for any more control and I'd be their slave. Fortunately this is not the case and most of the people are controlled by forces created by humans but not in control of humans. No one is in control. This makes me feel kinda optimistic about my control.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nolla View Post
    ?
    I thought wed already had this discussion in that thread. No?

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    Actually I voted less than that, nolla. Time has been a stern teacher in that regard. It's quite a tumble into the reality.

    Nonetheless, regarding Ezion's thoughts, I was in mind of the Dutch Christian missionary, Corrie Ten Boom, who was imprisoned by the Nazis. She was a woman of strong mind indeed and later wrote a book about her experience. She had trained her mind so well that she was able to maintain her sanity and she talks about how she did that.

    Apparently certain types and those who practice are better able to meet having their bodies controlled by others.
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    I have control over how I think about the things that happen to and around me. That's it. Everything else is outside of my control.

    However, that abililty to decide my personal response...that's crucial.

    BTW -- Believing I had control over my life was an illusion immediately shattered once I had a child. After which I realized I didn't control shit.
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