My family did kind of push the career thing, but since I felt like I didn't have a stable family growing up, I wanted to make one of my own. The women in my family were not the cooking, nurturing type, but our religious culture encouraged that kind of thing. That's what I thought I wanted to do. Then I figured out that I didn't much like it and wasn't particularly good at a lot of it. By then, I was kind of locked in and really still am in a lot of ways. If I'd grown up seeing it, I might have known better. Since I didn't, it almost had the lure of rebellion.
Truth be told, though, there isn't anything else I think I'd be a lot happier doing. I don't have any driving ambition to have a fulfilling professional life. I just want to have enough money to be comfortable and I don't care too much how I get it as long as I'm not violating my morals or being made miserable in the process. And I don't know how folks juggle the childcare and full-time jobs and keep their marriages going. I don't think I have the energy for that.
But, yeah, if there is something that I see that I honestly believe needs doing and it looks pretty certain that nobody else is going to do it, chances are pretty good that I'll get around to doing it. Like, if my mom couldn't drive and had a doctor's appointment and I do not have other plans, you can be damn sure I'm driving my mom to the doctor.
However, I would not expect any of my kids to marry, to have kids, or to be SAHMs or SAHDs unless that's what they wanted to do. I want them to be responsible and to conduct their relationships with honor and I want them to be happy but I'm not real invested in how they do it. I do want grandkids, but if none of my kids have kids, there is always my brother. And if he doesn't have kids, well, surely there will be some frazzled parent or parents out there that will let us babysit for free and buy Carter's sleepers for their little ones. There isn't any need to damage my relationship with my kids over it or to try to push them into something that's a bad fit.