Love Languages Test

[Lightyear]

Wow, really no one seems to have gifts as a primary love language! Might it be because most of us are intuitives and liking to receive gifts is just more of a sensor thing?

 

[BlackCat]

Wow, really no one seems to have gifts as a primary love language! Might it be because most of us are intuitives and liking to receive gifts is just more of a sensor thing?

My mom is ENFJ with Receiving gifts as a primary and acts of service as a secondary. SUCH a pain in the ass... I don't even think about gifts and she expects them.

 

[Gewitter27]

Words of Affirmation 4

Quality Time 9

Receiving Gifts 2

Acts of Service 7

Physical Touch 8

 

[WoodsWoman]

Quality Time and Physical Touch tied at 33%

 

[hommefatal]

Words of Affirmation 27%
Quality Time 33%
Receiving Gifts 10%
Acts of Service 3%
Physical Touch 27%

Pretty much. I wanna spend time together, receive words of affirmation, and touch them all the time.

 

[Sachetan]

37% Words of Affirmation
33% Quality Time
10% Receiving Gifts
10% Acts of Service
10% Physical Touch

 

[lane777]

The problem with this test -- the principle behind it seems fine -- is that it presents choices that aren't really contrasts. Often it's not so much about preference as the lesser of evils. The only reason physical touch and acts of service are so high is that I had to pick something, and gifts actively annoy me.

33% Quality Time - 10
27% Words of Affirmation - 8
27% Physical Touch - 8
13% Acts of Service - 4
0% Receiving Gifts - 0

I don't consider the test to be of good quality either, it's for those who are unaware of the love languages. I intended for it to give us a rough idea -it's just a starting point.

I never felt like I meshed with this test, nothing really feels great to me or sticks out.

It all seems very Sensor-ish too, everything is very quantifiable -- tangible expression. That makes sense, though, considering the aim of the test is for couples to give each other tangible quantifiable signs of love in order to improve their relationship.

You know what makes me feel loved?
- Being listened to
- Given autonomy rather than being made to feel/think how the other person feels/thinks
- Talking honestly and deeply / intimately, so I sense I know the other person and they know me.
- Knowing I can be myself -- even if that means sometimes showing my "ugly" side -- and that the other person still delights in me.

Mostly all "process" things -- HOW do we relate -- rather than through WHAT do we relate. Again, Sensor-ish for the latter.

Your first and second points which I bolded, indicate Quality Time as your love language.

Your other two points are irrelevant, because you're actually speaking of acceptance (one of the 3 most basic human needs), not a love language.

 

[wolfy]

I did this a while ago, Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation came out on top.
So 'Oh, you're so big!' and things like that make me feel loved.

 

[Phantonym]

Quality Time 33%
Acts of Service 27%
Physical Touch 23%
Words of Affirmation 10%
Receiving Gifts 7%

 

[Amargith]

Test Results:
Physical Touch 37 percent
Words of Affirmation 23 percent
Quality Time 17 percent
Receiving Gifts 17 percent
Acts of Service 7 percent

 

[Halla74]

Wow, really no one seems to have gifts as a primary love language! Might it be because most of us are intuitives and liking to receive gifts is just more of a sensor thing?

Gifts rated very low on my score, so gifts might not necessarily be a Sensor thing. I'm sure there are a few overly materialistic Intuitives out there somewhere...

 

[The Ü™]

I cannot take this test. The options are too narrow. There isn't one for Neither!

 

[King sns]

physical touch 37%
quality time 27%
words of affirmation 23%
gifts 10%
acts of service 1%

 

[Amargith]

Words of Affirmation 8
Quality Time 10
Receiving Gifts 2
Acts of Service 4
Physical Touch 6

Gifts and Acts of Service are only non-zero because of this:



It's also funny, nobody has a high gifts score so far. Gifts as an expression of love just feels wrong to me, very shallow and irrelevant. That said, growing up, the *only* way that 'love' was expressed was via birthday and Christmas gifts, so gifts on those days still matter to me (never managed to undo that pattern). Gifts at other times generally annoy or baffle me. I remember my ex would occasionally buy me gifts when we first started going out and I'd just look at him blankly.

I'm the opposite. As birthday gifts and christmas gifts are social obligations they don't mean half as much to me as my SO bringing me something he knows I've been wanting to get myself, just out of the blue. Means he thought of me, when he wasn't required to and remembered what I like, and put effort into it

It's not my primary 'love' language, but it does put a big smile on my face and I am genuinly appreciative of him doing this for me. Whereas acts of service, unless he spots that I need help (then I really do appreciate it), aren't that important to me. He knows I can take care of myself and do my own work. And I prefer doing them my way anyways.

 

[Matthew_Z]

Quality Time 11
Physical Touch 7
Word of Affirmation 5
Acts of Service 5
Receiving Gifts 2

 

[mortabunt]

Post. I'll be back later.

 

[mortabunt]

Here are my scores:

words of affirmation: 7.
quality time: 10.
receiving gifts: 0.
acts of service: 7
physical touch: 6.

 

[Jeffster]

The only reason physical touch and acts of service are so high is that I had to pick something, and gifts actively annoy me.

Gifts....annoy...you? OMG YOU GAVE ME ANOTHER GIFT!! THIS IS TERRIBLE! A POX ON YOUR GIFT!! :steam:

 

[hommefatal]

I cannot take this test. The options are too narrow. There isn't one for Neither!

LOL, do you hate love?

 

[mortabunt]

^ I do. It always passes me by and taunts me.