40 quality time
27 physical touch
17 words of affirmation
14 acts of service
04 receiving gifts
i just like to be around my partner i guess for some people that would be annoying but to me it's pleasing. unquestionably we need a good amount of alone time too but i love having someone i'm comfortable doing anything with.
as for gifts... gifts are fun. i love surprises. and i loooove plane tickets. but gifts are less important to me than these other things when in a relationship, because really, i can buy myself whatever i want. the rest of the options can't come from a paycheck.
From what I remember, the language of receiving gifts doesn't necessarily mean that you only feel loved when people buy you things. It has to do with feeling appreciated when someone gives you something physical because you can remember them by that item. It's like they were thinking of you when they retrieved that gift for you. It could be a little flower that someone picks from a garden, or someone could make that person a card and they will feel appreciated. It doesn't have anything to do with being greedy or wanting more and more STUFF. It's about knowing that someone was thinking about them.
I just wanted to clear the misconception I feel people may have. Don't be ashamed or feel guilty if that's your language. That's how you feel appreciated!! Own it.
Originally Posted by MacGuffin
ayoitsStepho is becoming someone else. Actually her true self, a rite of passage.