Sounds like she uses Si in a supporting role coupled with a very possible leading Fe. I'd say ESFJ fits pretty good .
I definitely saw a "nostagic" use of his Si similar to how I use mine.
I'd say Melancholy in control but he didn't seem very strong willed and independent from what I got to know of my father.
He seemed to just want to be able to do what he wanted and to do it with as little of a fuss as possible.
I can see this " Expresses very little control over the lives and behaviors of others, and will not tolerate control over his/her life and behavior".
I don't know about highly independent and strong willed. My mother told me how she wanted him to fight and argue with her but he just wouldn't.
She'd complain to him or address something and he'd shrug it off. It seemed he just wanted to simply be and not have much fuss in his day to day life.
From what I hear from my mother he wasn't self motivated, she had to pretty much keep on with him about getting this or doing that.
He'd retreat if any perceived failure was brought *via arguement with mother* to light by going to his room.
He'd be visibly bothered by whatever was addressed but he'd walk away from it in frustration and probably from his ego being bruised.
I've seen this many times and it confused me.
" Becomes angry if confronted for mistakes, criticized or made to look foolish.*
I could see INFP as a very potential possibility as tertiary Si was very evident in his personality from what I saw of him and where we connected *Ne-Si especially*.
I'm thinking phlegmatic-mel for Inclusion.
I felt like he understood me and in alot of my imaginative ways as a kid.
I would think a phlegmatic in control? What do you think from what I say in the above?