Your Existing Situation
"Searching for a close bond with others which are accepting and kind. Needs a safe, peaceful atmosphere."
Your Stress Sources
Unfulfilled hopes have lead him to be cautious and mistrusting. Insists he have full control over his actions and will not let anything hold him back or stand in his way. Unwilling to give up or surrender anything and demands a promise of safety against future setbacks or loss of status. Has no hope that things will get better in the future and this negative attitude lead him to make impossible demands and refuses to come to any sort of agreement.
Your Restrained Characteristics
"Current situation makes him feel unable to prove himself, but tries to make the best of things."
Feels trapped in a helpless situation and is desperately seeking relief. He is able to find pleasure and happiness in sexual activity.
"Believes his hopes and dreams are realistic and sticks to them stubbornly, even though circumstances are forcing him to compromise. Very precise in the qualities he seeks in a partner."
"Feels trapped in a helpless situation and is desperately seeking relief. He is able to find pleasure and happiness in sexual activity, as long as there is not a lot of conflict or emotional difficulty."
Your Desired Objective
"Longs for tenderness and for a feeling of acceptance from a partner. Appreciates things that are beautiful, pleasing to the eye, and stylish."
Your Actual Problem
Disappointed because his hopes have not come to pass and he fears coming up with new goals will only lead to further disappointment. These conflicting emotions lead to a feeling of anxiety and depression. He tries to escape into a peaceful and calm relationship which offers encouragement and protection from further disappointment.
Your Actual Problem #2
"Prefers to be left in peace and avoids arguments, confrontation, and conflicts."