help with an ENTP!

[SillyGoose]

Originally Posted by handsopen

Thanks that's really helpful! And it's not weird at all, it's just what I'm going through..at least now I know ENTPs can actually do that. Subconsciously I expect everyone to be like myself.

Yes, he is normally very calm, and his being uncharacteristically jittery when I talk to him is v. frustrating! Sometimes I am more calm than I usually am, because he's probably so preoccupied i think he wouldn't notice much of what I do, but now I realise that's not too true, he still retains most of his wits to josh around, when I'm not expecting it. Other times it makes me really nervous though, receiving all that nervous energy.

Yeah, I will relax and be myself!

Cool

The other thing I noticed is that he was okay around other girls and would really pull some hotties with ease. So I think with me that maybe he feels a little more seriously about me and is why he is super nervous and is taking his time. Sounds like you may have the same thing going on as well.

[tinkerbell]

Em, er, been there done that....

Em give him time and be open to what he is saying, for all ENTPs are extrovert in some sences it doens't mean they are not shy. In fact I'd go one step further to say behind the noise is usually someone who is quite profoundly shy (although not nessesarily so for all ENTP). Give him time, if he gets around to it all well and good.

Sorry you are having such a horrible time

L

[handsopen]

Originally Posted by tinkerbell

Em, er, been there done that....

ENTPs! haha.

Em give him time and be open to what he is saying, for all ENTPs are extrovert in some sences it doens't mean they are not shy. In fact I'd go one step further to say behind the noise is usually someone who is quite profoundly shy (although not nessesarily so for all ENTP). Give him time, if he gets around to it all well and good.

Sorry you are having such a horrible time

L

i thought he could be just shy so i took the first step for him. maybe it'd help knowing i'm interested.

or else, at least i'll know i gave it my bestest!

[handsopen]

Originally Posted by SillyGoose

Cool

The other thing I noticed is that he was okay around other girls and would really pull some hotties with ease. So I think with me that maybe he feels a little more seriously about me and is why he is super nervous and is taking his time. Sounds like you may have the same thing going on as well.

mm. yeah, i think it's the same thing..though..that's a lot of maybes, but hearing about what's going on with your ENTP, i 'm pretty sure that is exactly what's happening, and i guess it'd help too if i relax and try not to get too serious about it/let his jittery nerves rub off on me. (or we'd be two very nervous people)

[tinkerbell]

A big confession, I once asked an ENTP bloke out who had been watching me from afar for many months, he totally freaked out.... very embarrising. That was what I meant by been there done that.

Sadly I really liked the guys (warts and all - especally his mind). I suspect it was a knee jerk reaction as it was a sponaneous responce... he was angry - which is a VERY pecurluar responce to being asked out.... At the time I translated into I'd hurt him, but I still don't know what that was all about....

If I ever get an answer to that I'll let you know

L

[handsopen]

Originally Posted by tinkerbell

A big confession, I once asked an ENTP bloke out who had been watching me from afar for many months, he totally freaked out.... very embarrising. That was what I meant by been there done that.

Sadly I really liked the guys (warts and all - especally his mind). I suspect it was a knee jerk reaction as it was a sponaneous responce... he was angry - which is a VERY pecurluar responce to being asked out.... At the time I translated into I'd hurt him, but I still don't know what that was all about....

If I ever get an answer to that I'll let you know

L

yes, a very strange response to being asked out!
maybe they felt caught cause they'd not expected anyone to realise what they've been thinking? i'm not sure.
i've a feeling this ENTP would've done something along those lines had i sprung it on him to his face too...

[InaF3157]

Originally Posted by handsopen

darn. i do so want to let rip. but i think i should let him cool off for a while before launching a second direct attack.

Why on earth would you do that?