Has anyone called you a sore loser?

[Algora J]

I have an INTJ male friend, and oh boy! does he not like losing an argument. We recently played chess together, and I won all 4 times which made me very annoyed with me.

So I have a question for you NT folks, when you lose, how graceful are you?

[Enyo]

Depends on how much I care about the competition. :-)

Edit: There are some things that I know that I'm not very skilled in. I expect to lose when I play certain games against my husband. In those cases, not so much. But when it's something that I'm skilled in, I don't like to lose.

[BlackOp]

We very rarely lose the war...may drop a few battles here and there. I only get mad if I beat myself. If he's annoyed with you...you've got his attention. Thats a victory in itself.

[EffEmDoubleyou]

I HATE losing. The Gauntlet put me in a funk for days. While I have not been called a sore loser, I have been accused of being that guy that always takes a fun game too seriously. "Chutes go DOWN, you sonofabitch, ladders go UP. I swear, what are you, like three years old? Oh, you are."

[disregard]

HAHA

[PinkPiranha]

Originally Posted by EffEmDoubleyou

I HATE losing. The Gauntlet put me in a funk for days. While I have not been called a sore loser, I have been accused of being that guy that always takes a fun game too seriously. "Chutes go DOWN, you sonofabitch, ladders go UP. I swear, what are you, like three years old? Oh, you are."

I've graciously kicked someone til they fell down and then cursed them to their 5th generation.

Yeah. Little old Bingo ladies *totally* had it comin'.

[Economica]

Originally Posted by Algora J

So I have a question for you NT folks, when you lose, how graceful are you?

I know I used to be a very sore loser, even if I like to think I've always tried to contain my reaction (as opposed to blowing up at the winner; how transparent and pathetic is that?). I feel I've gotten better - losing stings less and I need less time to recover - but I rather think there's a long way to go still before the term graceful will apply to me.

[Terian]

Well, to be called a sore loser, first you have to lose.

[Algora J]

Originally Posted by Enyo

Depends on how much I care about the competition. :-)

Edit: There are some things that I know that I'm not very skilled in. I expect to lose when I play certain games against my husband. In those cases, not so much. But when it's something that I'm skilled in, I don't like to lose.

My point is that it doesn't matter if you're skilled at something or not, the whole point is the adherence to diplomacy if indeed you do lose.

I've always had the philosophy that if someone is right and better at you than something, then better learn from that individual. However, with my particular INTJ friend, I think now he's holding a slight grudge towards me!

I sense some jealousy issues on his part, but I haven't brought it up.

[Algora J]

Originally Posted by Economica

I know I used to be a very sore loser, even if I like to think I've always tried to contain my reaction (as opposed to blowing up at the winner; how transparent and pathetic is that?). I feel I've gotten better - losing stings less and I need less time to recover - but I rather think there's a long way to go still before the term graceful will apply to me.

Yes, well I certainly gather that is the case with INTJs!