I'm a new poster and found myself to be an INTJ based on multiple testings. After reading the description of the INTJ, I was amazed by the near flawless relation between my own abilities/weaknesses/tastes and those of the stereotypicl INTJ. It was one of those eye opening revelations, one I wish I had come across sooner in life.
However, I also find a few of the listed traits of the usual INTJ to be contradictory to my own state.
Little emotion (while I try to show relatively little on a day to day basis, I sometimes erupt in anger and also tend to get quite nervous/stressed)
confidence (perhaps with my ideas/theories if I have trully thought them through, but not so much in social situations or upcoming deadlines)
unaffected by others opinions (I have always been sensitive of others perceptions of me and try to avoid any conflict by acting so nice I feel like a fool, or worse, salesman)
Anyhow, I realize that some INTJ's may have these and perhaps are a sign of undeveloped areas of my personality?
Just to give you some background into my life:\
- INTJ tests ranged from I (65-80%)/ N (60-80%)/ T (30-50%)/ J (0-15%)
- I believe my mother is the complete opposite of my personality type. She is extrovert, very kind, and very un-intellectual. However, the one thing I do have in common is an unstable mood. (hers swings more often than mine though) In fact, I grew up fearing her as she would turn from an almost overbearingly loving mother (80% of the time), to throwing satan like fits. My mother also didn't understand how someone could be introvert and thus kept pushing me to get out there and be with people.
- Spent my early childhood years in confusion. Tended to be liked by many kids, but rarely wanted to hang out with them after school. As school progressed into highschool I become a white sheep to the "popular" kids at school while never really being part of the group. Thus in my last years I turned very introvert and focused all of my energy into an obsession with soccer which is what kept me going. I only was able to get into a decent college due to my natural intelligence as I may as well have never showed up to class considering how little I payed attention to.
- Now, realizing I had the chance to start over on the other side of the country, I did. I do very well in classes and have a group of close knit friends (I realized the party/frat crap wasn't for me very quickly). Now, I am majoring in finance/economics and am very focused on what careers I would like to enter (as you can imagine with our type, much research and planning has gone into it). I am able to do very well socially, but only for short amounts of time.
- writing (I'm much too slow and methodical)
- trying to sell
- learning languages. (even English)
- wasting time (even though I constantly am ashamed by my continual ability to do so)
- details (staring at a legal document is like committing mental suicide)
- reading (even though I am still much too slow in this aswell)
- grand theories
- Learning in general (must be somewhat useful though)
- quantitative work
- traveling (even somewhat like socializing with strangers when traveling )
Anyhow, I was wondering if any of you could give me advice as to whether
1.) I am truly an INTJ
2.) I have under-developed traits (I am assuming this one)
3.) how I can best work at overcoming these clear weaknesses
Thanks in advance (I'm betting no other INTJ uses these smilies)