ESFP/ENFP - how to get the ESFP off the ENFP?

[bluemonday]

Originally Posted by booyalab

Since the solution is so blindingly obvious, it's hard not to assume you're secretly reveling in the predicament.

What you're basically saying is "how do I get him to stop liking me without making him not like me anymore?"

+1
Classic ENFP dilemma.

[Twixt]

Shit. Haha ok really, its obvious? Yeah I must be blind. This namby-pamby-ness = my need to remain on good terms with everyone (very stupid I know now).

So what to do is basically:

Keep that person as an acquaintence. Be polite. Be firm. Avoid hanging out/anything personal.

It's a really crappy thing to do to somebody, but I'd recommend avoiding him. Don't answer his calls, don't return his messages, pretend your not there if he shows up at your house. And if you find yourself in a position where you can't avoid him, be cold and distant towards him. You've made yourself clear and if he can't accept that then it's his problem. Wait until he stops trying to get your attention or be around you to start hanging out with him again.

Right. Ok. Thanks allll.


Oh, side note:

it's hard not to assume you're secretly reveling in the predicament.

Ack ok I probably would have said that myself too, if i just read this thread by some other person and hadn't gone thru this before. But um.. i suppose i'm just a backbone-less person but don't want to have to hurt people's feelings [but YES I know now that it is INEVITABLE if i want this to stop, and it was all my fault in the first place for letting this drag on so friggin long.]