ENFP's and Social Anxiety/Shyness...

soleil · 10-10-2008, 12:34 AM

Was wondering if other ENFP's experience this? The thing with me is if I'm comfortable around my environment then all that shyness and anxiety is out the window, but if the energy isn't flowing I become extremely introverted and uncomfortable. It's weird because I would say I'm 50/50 in the extroversion/introversion department. The ENFP description suits me 100%, but I tend to become anxious in certain social settings.

Clownmaster · 10-10-2008, 12:36 AM

hrm, my E tested at 100%, so I can't relate at all. Good thread idea though.

Awesomecakes · 10-10-2008, 12:47 AM

I can relate. My E is slightly higher than my I. If the vibes aren't good I tend to leave the situation.

VanillaCat · 10-10-2008, 12:54 AM

Yep. Same with me. I got 50% I and 50% E on the MBTI test, but it still said I was an extrovert.

I really think I have social anxiety and should probably get that checked out. But other times, I'm sooo opposite of that.

I can be really quiet and I REALLY daydream a lot when I'm like that. Other times, I'll be so loud and outgoing that it's ridiculous. I even talk to strangers on the street, which isn't always a good thing!

But it's okay, haha.

But anyway, I get insanely nervous when I have to speak in a large group of people. I'd rather give a quart of blood or something, Lol! It's so noticeable.

Some people call me shy though. That's not true at all. I'm not shy, it's just that I don't know how to exactly react or say things at the moment so I get all jumbled and not respond too much. But after I get a strong reading of the person, wow, you won't be able to shut me up!

SillyGoose · 10-10-2008, 01:15 AM

I generally test in the 80% range for extroversion, but I still feel the same way sometimes.

If it is especially cold atmosphere to me (i.e. public speaking by ME) I can really feel anxious. Cold sweats and everything. I have read that ENFP's are the most introverted like extroverts and the personal growth pages stress that we need time alone to stay on our paths.

Probably didn't help any, but ya, I feel you

phoenix13 · 10-10-2008, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by soleil

Was wondering if other ENFP's experience this? The thing with me is if I'm comfortable around my environment then all that shyness and anxiety is out the window, but if the energy isn't flowing I become extremely introverted and uncomfortable. It's weird because I would say I'm 50/50 in the extroversion/introversion department. The ENFP description suits me 100%, but I tend to become anxious in certain social settings.

I relate. I was even diagnosed with social anx in high school, and suspect I have some leftovers today. Basically, I become extremely self-conscious and get tense and awkward. On the other hand, during orchestra rehearsals or when chilling with interesting people (ie. energizing situations), all that does go out the window, like you said.

mlittrell · 10-10-2008, 04:31 PM

i relate 100%. ive said this on another thread (i forget how) but it is intuitive-in-a-sensor-environment-syndrome

hermeticdancer · 10-10-2008, 05:51 PM

Luvox (fluvoxamine) works wonders for SAD.
If you have a big problem, it can help. It will boost low Seritonin levels.
Works in myself, and my brother who has SAD, he takes 50mg luvox and 25 mg Zoloft a day, its like a party drug to him. Hes an INFP, and now hes very extroverted, and is in love with people for the first time.
That combo is the best meds for anxiety and NF's, I know because Ive tried them all!

Jack Flak · 10-10-2008, 05:53 PM

Note: I'm not ENFP!

Luvox, eh? Alcohol works too, but it's not exactly the best all day drug. Is it recommended for mild social anxiety? I am quite literally anxious around people I don't know.

bluemonday · 10-10-2008, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by hermeticdancer

Luvox (fluvoxamine) works wonders for SAD.
If you have a big problem, it can help. It will boost low Seritonin levels.
Works in myself, and my brother who has SAD, he takes 50mg luvox and 25 mg Zoloft a day, its like a party drug to him. Hes an INFP, and now hes very extroverted, and is in love with people for the first time.
That combo is the best meds for anxiety and NF's, I know because Ive tried them all!

Have you tried 5HTP? It's a vegetable source of tryptophan which is converted into serotonin in the body. It has fewer side affects than your averages SSRIs and is suitable for long term use.
Good for insomnia too.

10-10-2008, 12:34 AM	#1 (permalink)
soleil Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Type: ENFP Location: In A Van Down By The River Posts: 340	ENFP's and Social Anxiety/Shyness... Was wondering if other ENFP's experience this? The thing with me is if I'm comfortable around my environment then all that shyness and anxiety is out the window, but if the energy isn't flowing I become extremely introverted and uncomfortable. It's weird because I would say I'm 50/50 in the extroversion/introversion department. The ENFP description suits me 100%, but I tend to become anxious in certain social settings. __________________ "Self-revelation is a cruel process. The real picture, the real you never emerges. Looking for it is as bewildering as trying to know how you really look. Ten different mirrors show you ten different faces." 4w5 sx/so/sp

10-10-2008, 12:36 AM	#2 (permalink)
Clownmaster Zaphod Beeblebrox Join Date: Sep 2008 Type: ENFP Location: H-Town, Texas Posts: 1,007	hrm, my E tested at 100%, so I can't relate at all. Good thread idea though. __________________ Because you can't spell "Slaughter" without "Laughter" Functions: Ne 39.9, Si 15.2, Se 38.9, Ni 28.1, Te 20.3, Ti 27.6, Fe 37, Fi 33.2 Socionics: IEE; Psychologist; ▲ ╚ = Extraverted Intuition & Introverted Ethics Enneagram: The Helper (2). Balanced wings of Reformer (1) and Achiever (3). Instinctual Variant: Sexual > Social > Self-Preservation

10-10-2008, 12:47 AM	#3 (permalink)
Awesomecakes uʍop ǝpısdn Join Date: Aug 2008 Type: entp Posts: 697	I can relate. My E is slightly higher than my I. If the vibes aren't good I tend to leave the situation. __________________ I remember, but it hasn't happened yet.

10-10-2008, 12:54 AM	#4 (permalink)
VanillaCat Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Type: ENFP Location: New Jersey Posts: 149	Yep. Same with me. I got 50% I and 50% E on the MBTI test, but it still said I was an extrovert. I really think I have social anxiety and should probably get that checked out. But other times, I'm sooo opposite of that. I can be really quiet and I REALLY daydream a lot when I'm like that. Other times, I'll be so loud and outgoing that it's ridiculous. I even talk to strangers on the street, which isn't always a good thing! But it's okay, haha. But anyway, I get insanely nervous when I have to speak in a large group of people. I'd rather give a quart of blood or something, Lol! It's so noticeable. Some people call me shy though. That's not true at all. I'm not shy, it's just that I don't know how to exactly react or say things at the moment so I get all jumbled and not respond too much. But after I get a strong reading of the person, wow, you won't be able to shut me up! __________________ It is difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends on his not understanding it.

10-10-2008, 01:15 AM	#5 (permalink)
SillyGoose Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Type: EXXP Location: VA baby! Posts: 254	I generally test in the 80% range for extroversion, but I still feel the same way sometimes. If it is especially cold atmosphere to me (i.e. public speaking by ME) I can really feel anxious. Cold sweats and everything. I have read that ENFP's are the most introverted like extroverts and the personal growth pages stress that we need time alone to stay on our paths. Probably didn't help any, but ya, I feel you __________________ "My mom told me there was a weirdo on every bus, but I never could find him." Emo Phillips

10-10-2008, 04:31 PM	#7 (permalink)
mlittrell Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Type: ENFP Location: New Jersey Posts: 1,389	i relate 100%. ive said this on another thread (i forget how) but it is intuitive-in-a-sensor-environment-syndrome __________________ "Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress. " "You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty." "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." Mahatma Gandhi Enneagram: 9w1

10-10-2008, 05:51 PM	#8 (permalink)
hermeticdancer Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Type: ENFP Location: Ohio Posts: 51	Luvox (fluvoxamine) works wonders for SAD. If you have a big problem, it can help. It will boost low Seritonin levels. Works in myself, and my brother who has SAD, he takes 50mg luvox and 25 mg Zoloft a day, its like a party drug to him. Hes an INFP, and now hes very extroverted, and is in love with people for the first time. That combo is the best meds for anxiety and NF's, I know because Ive tried them all!

10-10-2008, 05:53 PM	#9 (permalink)
Jack Flak Banned Join Date: Jul 2008 Type: INTP Location: The Everlasting Sky Posts: 9,359	Note: I'm not ENFP! Luvox, eh? Alcohol works too, but it's not exactly the best all day drug. Is it recommended for mild social anxiety? I am quite literally anxious around people I don't know.

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