NFs and their social life

Cypocalypse · 10-03-2008, 06:32 AM

As an INTP, I would say that most of my friends (or the MBTI archetype that would get along pretty well with me) are NFs. NFs are more likely to get interested with NTs a lot more than SFs, based on experience. Their high EQ often times goes well with an NTs tendency to intellectualize things.

I've always wondered how an NFs social life usually differs from that of the standard archetype for sociability, which is SF.

I have one friend whom I consider to be NF. She's a female

We have a common friend, which is quite a promiscuous ESFP female, and this NF friend would occasionally ask me if I would want to say anything to her about it. I would just say, "I'd rather not say anything because it may jeopardize the friendship."

Well, it the ESFP's girl life anyway, and even if me and my NF friend are not in favor of it, we don't talk to her about it. Live and let live.

The moral benchmark of the NF girl is one of the reasons I assume that she's an NF, not to mention that she goes along well with my NT geekiness (not a lot of SFs do), but I noticed something....

In public, she acts soooo SF. I could be confusing it with the fact that she's really pretty hence she gets to become the center of attention, but I notice that she still tries to show up a bubbly disposition to everybody despite her apparent preference in whom she likes to interact with or otherwise--which is something that I consider to be more SF than NF.

Or is this something common to all Fs regardless of a stronger N or S?

Jack Flak · 10-03-2008, 06:39 AM

I've spoken similarly before: NFs are more concerned with what friendliness and socialibility mean, in the big picture, than, say, SFs. SFs appreciate these things for what they are in the moment.

placebo · 10-03-2008, 06:50 AM

For me, I wouldn't really say so. I would be bubbly only if I was in a particularly bubbly mood. I usually feel awkwardly polite in social situations, unless I'm really comfortable with that person (friends). Then I can be obnoxious, or whatever I feel like.

animenagai · 10-03-2008, 06:57 AM

i'm sure someone can mistaken me as an ESFP if the right mix of people in a social situation. i'll say EFP's in general are bubbly. they do it for different purposes but they look similar. as an N, i want to stay true to myself and will hence actively try to just spill out all my bubbly ideas, regardless of what people think. S's act bubbly within society's expectations and possibly sees the norm as people getting along with each other. i'm sure the S may conform a lot more than the N does. the motivations for our bubbliness could be very different.

Edasich · 10-03-2008, 08:13 AM

Cypocalypse, sounds more like extraverted feeling to me, not S/N. Anyway, I am friendly to pretty much everyone unless they give me a reason not to be, lol, but unless I am only with a few close friends, I wouldn’t really describe myself as bubbly, just because I am too shy and awkward, lol.

And morality isn’t type related, lol.

OneWithSoul · 10-03-2008, 10:35 AM

Even thought I am a very strong F, at that..I find myself very similar to an INTP. But yeah, the vast majority of my friends are ENTPs and INTPs, with, really, barely any other types..

BerberElla · 10-03-2008, 12:04 PM

Doesn't the whole "NF's etc etc" title sort of confuse the issue for anyone else?

I mean wouldn't an ENF's social life and experiences be different from the INF's?

Chris_in_Orbit · 10-03-2008, 06:51 PM

Yup, but I will admit that I have met some pretty bubbly INFPs, it really just depends on the people they are around I guess

Gish · 10-03-2008, 07:00 PM

I have to put on a social mask every time I leave my house. That feeling stays with me in any social situation, but I have a strong desire to fit in socially, perhaps in hopes of finding someone that shares interests. Recently this has been causing a lot of undue mental fatigue and I've been reconsidering my behavior. I don't think I've ever been "bubbly" though.

The structure of this paragraph-y sentence sucks, that is all.

quietmusician · 12-06-2008, 02:20 AM

I lack a true social life away from the computer. When I'm around people I constantly get asked with 'Why are you so quiet?' or 'Do you ever talk?'. It annoys the hell out of me. That's why I just avoid social situations completely.

10-03-2008, 06:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
Cypocalypse Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Type: INTP Posts: 126	NFs and their social life As an INTP, I would say that most of my friends (or the MBTI archetype that would get along pretty well with me) are NFs. NFs are more likely to get interested with NTs a lot more than SFs, based on experience. Their high EQ often times goes well with an NTs tendency to intellectualize things. I've always wondered how an NFs social life usually differs from that of the standard archetype for sociability, which is SF. I have one friend whom I consider to be NF. She's a female We have a common friend, which is quite a promiscuous ESFP female, and this NF friend would occasionally ask me if I would want to say anything to her about it. I would just say, "I'd rather not say anything because it may jeopardize the friendship." Well, it the ESFP's girl life anyway, and even if me and my NF friend are not in favor of it, we don't talk to her about it. Live and let live. The moral benchmark of the NF girl is one of the reasons I assume that she's an NF, not to mention that she goes along well with my NT geekiness (not a lot of SFs do), but I noticed something.... In public, she acts soooo SF. I could be confusing it with the fact that she's really pretty hence she gets to become the center of attention, but I notice that she still tries to show up a bubbly disposition to everybody despite her apparent preference in whom she likes to interact with or otherwise--which is something that I consider to be more SF than NF. Or is this something common to all Fs regardless of a stronger N or S?

10-03-2008, 10:35 AM	#6 (permalink)
OneWithSoul Infernite! Join Date: Aug 2008 Type: ENFP Location: Potsdam, NY Posts: 1,462	Even thought I am a very strong F, at that..I find myself very similar to an INTP. But yeah, the vast majority of my friends are ENTPs and INTPs, with, really, barely any other types.. __________________ Is all that we see or seem But a dream within a dream?

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BerberElla Toxic Join Date: Sep 2008 Type: enfp Location: The land of marmite and tea Posts: 1,585	Doesn't the whole "NF's etc etc" title sort of confuse the issue for anyone else? I mean wouldn't an ENF's social life and experiences be different from the INF's? __________________ 'Religions are like farts. Your own one smells okay, but everyone elses stinks' 7w8

10-03-2008, 07:00 PM	#9 (permalink)
Gish Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Type: IXXX Location: Earth Posts: 144	I have to put on a social mask every time I leave my house. That feeling stays with me in any social situation, but I have a strong desire to fit in socially, perhaps in hopes of finding someone that shares interests. Recently this has been causing a lot of undue mental fatigue and I've been reconsidering my behavior. I don't think I've ever been "bubbly" though. The structure of this paragraph-y sentence sucks, that is all. __________________ "Og ég fæ blóðnasir En ég stend alltaf upp"

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10-03-2008, 06:39 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jack Flak Banned Join Date: Jul 2008 Type: INTP Location: The Everlasting Sky Posts: 9,359	I've spoken similarly before: NFs are more concerned with what friendliness and socialibility mean, in the big picture, than, say, SFs. SFs appreciate these things for what they are in the moment.

10-03-2008, 06:50 AM	#3 (permalink)
placebo Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Type: INFP Location: Canada Posts: 491	For me, I wouldn't really say so. I would be bubbly only if I was in a particularly bubbly mood. I usually feel awkwardly polite in social situations, unless I'm really comfortable with that person (friends). Then I can be obnoxious, or whatever I feel like.

10-03-2008, 06:57 AM	#4 (permalink)
animenagai Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Type: ENFP Posts: 573	i'm sure someone can mistaken me as an ESFP if the right mix of people in a social situation. i'll say EFP's in general are bubbly. they do it for different purposes but they look similar. as an N, i want to stay true to myself and will hence actively try to just spill out all my bubbly ideas, regardless of what people think. S's act bubbly within society's expectations and possibly sees the norm as people getting along with each other. i'm sure the S may conform a lot more than the N does. the motivations for our bubbliness could be very different.

10-03-2008, 08:13 AM	#5 (permalink)
Edasich Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Type: Posts: 40	Cypocalypse, sounds more like extraverted feeling to me, not S/N. Anyway, I am friendly to pretty much everyone unless they give me a reason not to be, lol, but unless I am only with a few close friends, I wouldn’t really describe myself as bubbly, just because I am too shy and awkward, lol. And morality isn’t type related, lol.

10-03-2008, 06:51 PM	#8 (permalink)
Chris_in_Orbit Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Type: ESTJ Location: Illinois Posts: 476	Yup, but I will admit that I have met some pretty bubbly INFPs, it really just depends on the people they are around I guess

12-06-2008, 02:20 AM	#10 (permalink)
quietmusician Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Type: INFJ Location: New Jersey Posts: 282	I lack a true social life away from the computer. When I'm around people I constantly get asked with 'Why are you so quiet?' or 'Do you ever talk?'. It annoys the hell out of me. That's why I just avoid social situations completely.