Attracted to sadness?

deep rain · 12-10-2007, 09:57 PM

Do you feel it a waste of time or something you hate to feel to linger in sadness when you can be happy, or do you like it and it feels okay to you? Almost like it's vital or repleneshing to dwell on it sometimes?

MerkW · 12-10-2007, 09:59 PM

I'm no NF, so I'm not sure how well I can answer your question. However, I have in fact read that INxx types in general tend to be attracted to gloomy, macabre, or sad atmospheres.

Eileen · 12-10-2007, 10:00 PM

I can appreciate my sadness as a profound human experience sometimes. I'm not always in a hurry to leave it.

wolfmaiden14 · 12-10-2007, 10:10 PM

I usually feel guilty for feeling sad, even though I wish I wouldn't because I think it's a totally healthy thing ...more along the lines of "You know it's going to get better, and you'll be fine in time.. so just suck it up until then!"

Though I do think it's necessary to actually feel the pain/sadness in order to let it go. If I try to fight it, it usually fights back even harder. I just try not to linger on it.

GZA · 12-10-2007, 10:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Eileen

I can appreciate my sadness as a profound human experience sometimes. I'm not always in a hurry to leave it.

Haha, me too.

Its not like I'd ever want to be sad for a long time, its more that I realize that when I am sad, its part of the human experience. Its something deep and authentic, emotions, and feeling a veriety of them is worthwhile and feels productive in a sense.

What really bothers me is frustration. Theres no way to grow from that

ofugur · 12-10-2007, 11:02 PM

I find that relishing the emotion for a while helps me to eventually move on. As for being attracted to sad things, I find sombre art, moods, etc. have their own special beauty.

Evan · 12-10-2007, 11:03 PM

sometimes it feels really good to work through/deal with your emotions.

for me, even though i might feel sad dealing with emotions, i always feel good about myself for not taking the easy way out -- repression.

i definitely don't like to go around moping and being a burden, though -- i can always suppress my emotions until i can deal with them in a comfortable environment. but dealing with them is key; otherwise you'll end up acting out in less healthy ways.

Evan · 12-10-2007, 11:03 PM

oh and i'm extremely attracted to sad women. and sad music.

:-\

toonia · 12-10-2007, 11:10 PM

I appreciate a certain reflective melancholy and bittersweetness that speaks to some truth about reality. I don't like being sad personally and am tired of such things. I like having some energy and joy.

Silently Honest · 12-10-2007, 11:19 PM

I think it's the other way around. Sadness has the uncanny ability to find you at the most inopportune of moments.

12-10-2007, 09:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
deep rain Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Type: INFJ Posts: 48	Attracted to sadness? Do you feel it a waste of time or something you hate to feel to linger in sadness when you can be happy, or do you like it and it feels okay to you? Almost like it's vital or repleneshing to dwell on it sometimes?

12-10-2007, 09:59 PM	#2 (permalink)
MerkW Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Type: Location: Beyond the observable universe Posts: 534	I'm no NF, so I'm not sure how well I can answer your question. However, I have in fact read that INxx types in general tend to be attracted to gloomy, macabre, or sad atmospheres. __________________ "The mathematician's patterns, like the painter's or the poet's must be beautiful; the ideas like the colours or the words, must fit together in a harmonious way. Beauty is the first test: there is no permanent place in the world for ugly mathematics..." - G.H. Hardy "Another roof, another proof." - Paul Erdős INTJ (I = 100, N = 100, T = 88, J = 43) Solitary/Idiosyncratic, 5w6 sp/sx RL(x)EI (RlxE\|I\|)- Inquisitive Dominant Reserved Idealist ILI-Ni/INTp

12-10-2007, 10:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
Eileen Moderator Join Date: Apr 2007 Type: INFJ Location: an awesome bubble Posts: 1,963	I can appreciate my sadness as a profound human experience sometimes. I'm not always in a hurry to leave it. __________________ INFJ - 4w5 sx "Individual responsibility and mutual responsibility: that's the essence of America's promise." -- Barack Obama

12-10-2007, 10:10 PM	#4 (permalink)
wolfmaiden14 ears perk up Join Date: Oct 2007 Type: Infx Location: YOUR FACE Posts: 646	I usually feel guilty for feeling sad, even though I wish I wouldn't because I think it's a totally healthy thing ...more along the lines of "You know it's going to get better, and you'll be fine in time.. so just suck it up until then!" Though I do think it's necessary to actually feel the pain/sadness in order to let it go. If I try to fight it, it usually fights back even harder. I just try not to linger on it. __________________ Forming characters! Whose? Our own or others? Both. And in that momentous fact lies the peril and responsibility of our existence. - Elihu Burritt Member of the Maverick's Biker Club - Now crashing through walls instead of just..walking into them.

12-10-2007, 11:03 PM	#7 (permalink)
Evan . Join Date: Nov 2007 Type: INTP Location: Berkeley Posts: 3,062	sometimes it feels really good to work through/deal with your emotions. for me, even though i might feel sad dealing with emotions, i always feel good about myself for not taking the easy way out -- repression. i definitely don't like to go around moping and being a burden, though -- i can always suppress my emotions until i can deal with them in a comfortable environment. but dealing with them is key; otherwise you'll end up acting out in less healthy ways. __________________ INTP 9 sx/sp (9>5>2)

12-10-2007, 11:02 PM	#6 (permalink)
ofugur Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Type: ESTJ Location: USA Posts: 161	I find that relishing the emotion for a while helps me to eventually move on. As for being attracted to sad things, I find sombre art, moods, etc. have their own special beauty.

12-10-2007, 11:03 PM	#8 (permalink)
Evan . Join Date: Nov 2007 Type: INTP Location: Berkeley Posts: 3,062	oh and i'm extremely attracted to sad women. and sad music. :-\ __________________ INTP 9 sx/sp (9>5>2)

12-10-2007, 11:10 PM	#9 (permalink)
toonia eventually Join Date: Apr 2007 Type: infx Location: desert forest Posts: 2,484	I appreciate a certain reflective melancholy and bittersweetness that speaks to some truth about reality. I don't like being sad personally and am tired of such things. I like having some energy and joy. __________________ a quiet passenger who passed the time looking out the window enjoying this new view of the woods billy collins Ni=Ne=Fi>Te=Ti=Fe>Si>Se

12-10-2007, 11:19 PM	#10 (permalink)
Silently Honest Skilled Join Date: Nov 2007 Type: INFJ Location: Southeast City Posts: 4,480	I think it's the other way around. Sadness has the uncanny ability to find you at the most inopportune of moments. __________________ My own Mogulus Nostalgia channel

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