What NF's look for in a potential mate

[Angry Ayrab]

Physical: Not really picky, but generally I prefer petite women. Generally, the person has to be acceptable in the looks department, but I don't mind the so called 3's or 4's. Hell, I was once attracted to a girl with a permanent disfiguration of one side of her face, but it really was superficial, and if you hanged with the girl you would really be able to see her true beauty. Lol, this sounds horrible, but she looked amazing on left side profile shots

Emotional: I can't think of what one would be like. I am not too big on the emotions thing, more focused on fun. Generally, I like INxJ's a lot. They are my favorite types. I guess my most important thing in a partner is for that person to have empathy and compassion for others. The INTJ's that I seem to like (there are many different types of INTJ's) understand that we all have a duty to help others whenever we can.

Mental: This is the most important part, I want a person that I can blab with for hours and will be willing to explore any novel situation under the sun. As long as you like to talk (doesn't have to be with a crowd, it can be with me only) and have fun, you fit my bill.

[Desperado44]

Physical: I strongly prefer cute over 'gorgeous'....I LOVE a girl next door look. I love women that take care of themselves by staying in shape, gym time and watching what they eat. Petite/short is what I prefer. A great smile and soft, big brown eyes....mmmmmmm.....I'm done for....

Emotional: I seem to be really drawn to INFJ's....I am fascinated by Artisans....I love them soft, empathetic, giving and even keel. I adore shy girls. Affection is #1 for me in a relationship.

Mental: Smart...but not out of the ordinary. I love a girl that has her own passions....and I love watching her engage in them. I am very attracted to a girl that can tell me off and still make me feel like a man.....

[CzeCze]

I think I filled this before, but as I've been thinking about this recently, I'll update it.

Physical: This is primary. If there is no mutual physical attraction and chemistry, that's not a romantic partner, that's a friend. Which is fine, but that's not what this thread is about. You need passion, people! I can have very good emotional and other connections with people, but the thing that's missing is the physical chemistry and romantic vibe. So when it comes to romantic relationships, I do *not* play down the importance of the physical aspects.

Honestly, you know in the first 15 seconds of interacting with someone if you find them hot and if you have natural chemistry. Sometimes it sneaks up on you or one of you cleans up well, but it's usually instant and pheromonal. I like the hot ones. And hopefully they like me.

I must be viscerally physically attracted to them. The physical chemistry has to be natural and very good.

So-So and "let me try to like them" doesn't cut it here. Not enjoying making out with them is also a clear sign it's not meant to be.

Emotional: Are they present? Emotionally healthy and mature? Are they able to be there for me? Can they withstand my intensity? Can they match it? Can they delve into places and be honest? Can they have adult conversations? Can we help each other grow? A generous/giving spirit is very important to me in a partner. Someone who can push through my walls and reach me. Someone who I feel comfortable with doing the same.

Mental: Um...I guess I don't understand this other than to say they need to be mentally stable. Respectful. Mentally can go places together and be open. Basically, have great conversations with and can explore the world and each other with. Someone who can be silly with me and also tough and real.

The best matches are people where all three areas click NATURALLY and very strongly. Where you think, "OMG, this person is so cool!" and you are naturally drawn to them and want to be around them and spend time with them. That's what I look for. Relationships are hard, so the more natural affinity you have with someone, the easier and more enjoyable it is.

I'm looking for that delicious click where things fall into an intoxicating groove.

Yes, inside, somewhere, I remain a 13 year old prone to sighing and giggling.

[Angry Ayrab]

Originally Posted by Desperado44

Physical: I strongly prefer cute over 'gorgeous'....I LOVE a girl next door look. I love women that take care of themselves by staying in shape, gym time and watching what they eat. Petite/short is what I prefer. A great smile and soft, big brown eyes....mmmmmmm.....I'm done for....

Emotional: I seem to be really drawn to INFJ's....I am fascinated by Artisans....I love them soft, empathetic, giving and even keel. I adore shy girls. Affection is #1 for me in a relationship.

Mental: Smart...but not out of the ordinary. I love a girl that has her own passions....and I love watching her engage in them. I am very attracted to a girl that can tell me off and still make me feel like a man.....

Damn, that would actually be my ideal mate, but I haven't found one of those with everything.

[animenagai]

male enfp's UNIIIIIITE!!

that's how i like my girls too :P.

damn.

[Angry Ayrab]

Originally Posted by lane777

Physical: Has to be interested in eating well to mainain an attractive weight. May sound shallow but honestly nobody is interested in a blimp.

Emotional: Moodiness is very unattractive, but aware of his emotions and courageous enough to express them is an immediate turn on.

Mental: Thoughtful, deep, introspective. Learned about the things that count, like how to have a healthy relationship... a desire to communicate, understands the diff between discussing & argueing - argueing in my opinion is a sign of immaturity. We can discuss our differences, not argue them. And I love talkative men, it's so cute

Also must share my morals and beliefs. My fav qualities in ANY person is selflessness and humility.

AW just talking about my dream guy makes me all warm and fuzzy inside.

Lol, if Lane is a confirmed INFJ, she would be high up on all lists of the male ENFP.

Physical = Pass (Confirmed)
Emotional = Pass (theoretically based on INFJ type)
Mental = Pass (see above)

[SuperFob]

I don't know enough about relationships to give an in-depth answer. The basics to what I want in a mate are simple, though: I want someone who will love me deeply. I want a woman who can give me all the affection and caring in the world, someone who'll actually love me back.

[Edasich]

Originally Posted by SuperFob

I don't know enough about relationships to give an in-depth answer. The basics to what I want in a mate are simple, though: I want someone who will love me deeply. I want a woman who can give me all the affection and caring in the world, someone who'll actually love me back.

Awww =)

[mlittrell]

Originally Posted by Angry Ayrab

Lol, if Lane is a confirmed INFJ, she would be high up on all lists of the male ENFP.

Physical = Pass (Confirmed)
Emotional = Pass (theoretically based on INFJ type)
Mental = Pass (see above)

haha and dont forget the ENTPs

[jtanSis1]

Physical Dreamy and elegant, the kind that makes you forget reality

Emotional Very caring and kind, with a real intense passion

Mental very smart and determined to achieve goals