What NF's look for in a potential mate

[iwakar]

Physical: I'd like someone reasonably healthy or better. I cannot fault a person for being overweight (I am) or bad at regular exercise (my inspiration comes in spurts). But excessive drinking, being a smoker, or routine recreational drug use definitely puts me off, as well as being so morbidly obese that you need a forklift to remove you from your home.

Emotional: I'd like someone capable of true affection, but respectful of my space when I need it. I will do my very best to return the favor without complaint. Oh, and fidelity, fidelity, FIDELITY. If you can't be true? --then so long to you.

Mental: I'd like someone reasonably intelligent. I'm not going to demand IQ testing, but we need to hold a conversation at least mildly well on current events. Tolerance is another biggie; if you can't disagree without being disagreeable das boot mein friend.

[Desperado44]

Originally Posted by Angry Ayrab

Damn, that would actually be my ideal mate, but I haven't found one of those with everything.

Yeah...that makes two of us....

When I see a woman like that.....I practically freeze....wow they do it for me

[GinKuusouka]

Define the following characteristics-

Physical: Someone around my age that I can grow old with; beautiful, kind eyes; gentle hands.

Emotional: Moodswings are fine by me. The switching of moods is a natural part of life. I would like them to be balanced though. Experiencing the moods but not living through them. Sweet, honest, considerate, but also someone a little more dominant than me that isn't afraid of allowing the relationship to be on equal footing- if that made sense. Able to laugh at himself.

Mental: Intelligent yet not arrogant. An intellectual. Witty but not cruel. Able to admit to mistakes and seek forgiveness. Humble.

[quietmusician]

How about understanding and acceptance? If I can have that then everything else can fall away.

[Skyward]

Physical:

Approachable, essentially. Physically fit, definitely, but I dont need it overdone. There's something disheartening about someone who is at the gym 90% of their free time. I don't want someone that's bigger than I am, though. It would be awkward fast.

Emotional:

Stable, but not dry. Someone who is dynamic but not overly gushy. Sincere.

Mental:

Someone who I can talk about silly ideas with and not have to explain 90% of what I think of to. Someone amused by/interested in my random musings is a big plus sign. Someone who has a similar interest as me is required. I'm willing to try out your ideas of fun, only if you're willing to try mine.

How about understanding and acceptance? If I can have that then everything else can fall away.

Ditto
But I don't expect anyone to understand me. Heck, I don't want anyone to THINK they understand me (I'd rather have a person 'feel' they understand me, if you get what I mean. I don't mean if they're a Feeler or a Thinker either), but the willingness to work at trying to understand what and who I am is an absolute necessity.

[placebo]

Physical:attraction

Emotional:depth

Mental:keenness

[cherchair]

Originally Posted by GirlAmerica

Define the following characteristics-

Physical:

Emotional:

Mental:

Physical: must have a physical disability; otherwise there's this unbridgeable gap between us. My preference is for paraplegics as they have al that upper body strength and can get around pretty easily. Someone with a good knowledge of body mechanics and who takes care of himself.

Emotional: must be emotionally available and expressive, even if he's a T. Someone who can accept my bipolar, even if he doesn't completely understand it.

Mental: intellectual with an edge of blue-collar street smarts.

[SillySapienne]

Physical: Must love his smell, must find him attractive.

Emotional: Less emotional than me but more emotional than a fish.

Mental: Must be regarded and respected as an intellectual equal, must be an independent, critical thinker who both stimulates and challenges me.

[noigmn]

Originally Posted by tenINsFJ

I'm attracted to everything that people lack. I'm doomed.

Maybe you don't look hard enough to see it...

[noigmn]

Physical: 6ft, athletic, dark hair, green eyes or warm brown eyes

Emotional: Connects with me and gets me in some way. Wants to connect, hates games and distance. Loves silence and isn't scared of depth. Wild, playful.

Mental: Can level me in most fields, I want a challenge.