ENFJ - amazing or exhausting?

[ceecee]

Originally Posted by SpottingTrains

Shhh..! If the T's ever got a hold of this information I'm pretty sure there would be rampant enslavement of ENFJs haha.

Hmmm...much better than a wind turbine.

[ergophobe]

Mostly awesome, rarely exhausting.

Three of my closest friends (one for over 13 years now) are ENFJs. We met way back in college. All are incredibly intelligent, well-informed, sensible, loyal, charming and funny women. Most of the time, it's an NF fest. I could talk to them for days and not run out of things to say and learn from each other. The only time we run into problems is when they have decided they are right or convinced of something. It is no longer about the evidence in front of us or the arguments put forth by the other person. They *have decided*. That's it.

They are also likely to reach their conclusions about people sooner than me. I'm more likely to give people the benefit of doubt in most cases.

[Jonathanthegreat]

Originally Posted by BerberElla

I so need to meet some enfj's in real life lol it's like one of the last types I have yet to spot in the wild.

That and ENTj/p's.

Must go hunting.

Sweet mother of Jesus Christ if that's you in that picture I'll be your real life friend

[mwv6r]

An ENFJ first-grader was my absolute favorite student ever. She was constantly bubbling over with vivaciousness and enthusiasm. I'll never forget when she greeted me one Monday morning after a school break with, "Ms. V, I couldn't sleep last night because I was sooo excited about seeing you this morning!" She definitely aspired to be queen bee amongst her peers (and was largely successful), but she seemed to be a benign dictator in her social relationships, seeking harmony and always complimenting and helping others. (Whenever a new student joined the classroom she always took them under her wing; I had to step in sometimes because I worried she'd mother them so much that they'd stop doing anything for themselves.)

Some of my coworkers certainly did find her exhausting! Ilissa always volunteered to accompany ill students to the nurse's office, but the nurse eventually requested that I stop allowing this because she said that Ilissa's constant conversation drove her crazy, lol. I have to say, though, I am crossing my fingers for an ENFJ when I have children of my own!

[Scott N Denver]

Originally Posted by BerberElla

I so need to meet some enfj's in real life lol it's like one of the last types I have yet to spot in the wild.

That and ENTj/p's.

Must go hunting.

I think ENFJ's are the hardest NF type to spot and identify. Personally I have to look for dom Fe with Ni support. The J is there but usually not in any overwhelming/in-your-face kinda way and the E is there but very attuned to others and not particularly assertive. They are E__J's, and yet they are the least J of all the J's I do believe. Holey schnikeys are they social chameleons!
So I look for E but very attentive to others, J but responding to others and not assertive per se but still very "declarative", Fe dom, Ni support, NF's. That's how it works for me anyways...

[SpottingTrains]

Originally Posted by mwv6r

An ENFJ first-grader was my absolute favorite student ever. She was constantly bubbling over with vivaciousness and enthusiasm. I'll never forget when she greeted me one Monday morning after a school break with, "Ms. V, I couldn't sleep last night because I was sooo excited about seeing you this morning!" She definitely aspired to be queen bee amongst her peers (and was largely successful), but she seemed to be a benign dictator in her social relationships, seeking harmony and always complimenting and helping others. (Whenever a new student joined the classroom she always took them under her wing; I had to step in sometimes because I worried she'd mother them so much that they'd stop doing anything for themselves.)

Some of my coworkers certainly did find her exhausting! Ilissa always volunteered to accompany ill students to the nurse's office, but the nurse eventually requested that I stop allowing this because she said that Ilissa's constant conversation drove her crazy, lol. I have to say, though, I am crossing my fingers for an ENFJ when I have children of my own!

That's awesome lol, I remember back when I was around that age I used to have a big group of friends who would follow me around from activity to activity. Teachers always called me a quiet leader because I never asked anyone to do anything, I just went and did it and people followed and had fun lol.

I always joke on how I was way too easy on my parents :p They tend to agree but I think my brother made up some of my share haha.

Best of luck with the ENFJ child!

[SurlyAdam]

Originally Posted by mwv6r

An ENFJ first-grader was my absolute favorite student ever. She was constantly bubbling over with vivaciousness and enthusiasm. I'll never forget when she greeted me one Monday morning after a school break with, "Ms. V, I couldn't sleep last night because I was sooo excited about seeing you this morning!" She definitely aspired to be queen bee amongst her peers (and was largely successful), but she seemed to be a benign dictator in her social relationships, seeking harmony and always complimenting and helping others. (Whenever a new student joined the classroom she always took them under her wing; I had to step in sometimes because I worried she'd mother them so much that they'd stop doing anything for themselves.)

Some of my coworkers certainly did find her exhausting! Ilissa always volunteered to accompany ill students to the nurse's office, but the nurse eventually requested that I stop allowing this because she said that Ilissa's constant conversation drove her crazy, lol. I have to say, though, I am crossing my fingers for an ENFJ when I have children of my own!

Exactly! And they never lose that energy. Sickening, isn't it?! ENFJs are exhausting and amazing. They make me feel like a slacker and a misanthrope.

[violaine]

Originally Posted by mwv6r

An ENFJ first-grader was my absolute favorite student ever. She was constantly bubbling over with vivaciousness and enthusiasm. I'll never forget when she greeted me one Monday morning after a school break with, "Ms. V, I couldn't sleep last night because I was sooo excited about seeing you this morning!" She definitely aspired to be queen bee amongst her peers (and was largely successful), but she seemed to be a benign dictator in her social relationships, seeking harmony and always complimenting and helping others. (Whenever a new student joined the classroom she always took them under her wing; I had to step in sometimes because I worried she'd mother them so much that they'd stop doing anything for themselves.)

Some of my coworkers certainly did find her exhausting! Ilissa always volunteered to accompany ill students to the nurse's office, but the nurse eventually requested that I stop allowing this because she said that Ilissa's constant conversation drove her crazy, lol. I have to say, though, I am crossing my fingers for an ENFJ when I have children of my own!

Aww, this sounds exactly like my little niece, lol. I want a teeny ENFJ to play with too! (How on earth could anyone not find the little darlings delightful. )

As far as the OP, I would have to say both. And that is a good thing, two of my best friends have been ENFJ.

[Domino]

Advisement: We get behind the sofa and piddle if we're left alone for more than 6 hours.

[hommefatal]

The only problem ENFJs are often very reality-based. They become one with social attitudes and then they take breaking of the rules personally.