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    From observation of people on this forum, I have seen several members who seem to have almost taught themselves to use Fe to a much greater degree than they probably naturally would use it. I'll admit to having taught myself to be a lot nicer and more diplomatic than I was when younger, because it gets me my way and wins arguments more frequently.

    I was just wondering about others' inputs-

    why would you develop a trait that you would not naturally use as much?

    what are the benefits of this?

    does it ever feel like it was a learned, as opposed to natural, trait?
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    Learned Fe

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    I do it a lot in real life, and I think it can be learned. Because I did, and it is in no way natural to me or my general way of being.


    why would you develop a trait that you would not naturally use as much?

    Comfort. Fe enables me to avoid unpleasant situation because of my natural affinity for being a mean asshole.


    what are the benefits of this?

    Obvious.


    does it ever feel like it was a learned, as opposed to natural, trait?

    Definitely. I hate bad situations where i'm the underdog, thus I evolved this as a kid when dealing with adults and older kids.
    But it's just a learned behavior.

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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    From observation of people on this forum, I have seen several members who seem to have almost taught themselves to use Fe to a much greater degree than they probably naturally would use it. I'll admit to having taught myself to be a lot nicer and more diplomatic than I was when younger, because it gets me my way and wins arguments more frequently.

    I was just wondering about others' inputs-

    why would you develop a trait that you would not naturally use as much?

    what are the benefits of this?

    does it ever feel like it was a learned, as opposed to natural, trait?
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    I think it's just a natural thing to learn to be more well-rounded. Long before I discovered MBTI and knew what to call the different functions, I had discovered that there were certain things that didn't come naturally to me, but that I needed to develop/pay attention to, if I wanted to be around people.

    For me, anyway, the idea is to accept the way I naturally am, while developing traits that allow me to understand and interact with others more smoothly. I can't imagine just saying "Welp, this is the way I am, take it or leave it."

    I would think if someone was incredibly strong on the Fi scale, they would almost have to develop some Fe, or come across as extremely judgmental.

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    Fe is necessary for relating to the vast majority of people. Things that you need, maybe for applying for a job, for having people on your side for support you on your ideas... Yes, Fe it's a very good way of making people think you're a decent human being, so it's easier to 'use' others.

    I use my Fe for giving a good impression and having more people on my side, and I learned thanks to my Ti-Ne axis. I just 'mimmick' attitudes and learn etiquette. It's not that bad, and well, it has some use.
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    Ironically, Fe did not come naturally to me either. After I learned it through life experience and mimicking other people, like Kora said, it's become my fourth strongest trait according to cognitive function tests. This was DEFINITELY NOT the case when I was younger. If anything I think my Fe function took over the Te function....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kora View Post
    Fe is necessary for relating to the vast majority of people. Things that you need, maybe for applying for a job, for having people on your side for support you on your ideas... Yes, Fe it's a very good way of making people think you're a decent human being, so it's easier to 'use' others.

    I use my Fe for giving a good impression and having more people on my side, and I learned thanks to my Ti-Ne axis. I just 'mimmick' attitudes and learn etiquette. It's not that bad, and well, it has some use.
    Yeah, mimicry is the INTP's Fe. It has its strengths and weaknesses.

    Real Fe is saved for once about every two years when I actually give a shit about something.

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    Fe is just as necessary as Te sometimes.

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    It pleases me to use Fe when it's unexpected and to withhold it when it's expected (IRL).

    I suppose I like to keep people on their toes.

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