User Tag List

First 123 Last

Results 11 to 20 of 25

  1. #11
    Senior Member edcoaching's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    7
    Posts
    752

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by curiouscat View Post
    I'm an ESTP according to the MBTI tool. Whenever I see the description I sort of agree with it. However,According to MBTI The difference between T and F is that T makes decisions based on logic and analysis and F based on values.

    I find that definition difficult to understand because I definitely use my values in my decision making, I do care about how people feel and how they would be affected, I get upset by negative feedback, and I value true harmony.
    ( based on this I'm an F)

    However, I do like equality, I think people should be treated fairly ( in a T way), I analyse the data available for making a decision, I do my pro and cons list to make a decision, and it needs to feel right. ( I'm mostly a t, but the decision is based on feeling right)

    I value competence and recognition for my output rather than my effort. ( I'm a T)

    This is a sweeping generalisation, but I find F avoid confrontation or conflict like the plague hoping it will go away ( searching for superficial harmony), they sweep conflict under the carpet and pretend is not there, and they seem to think there are no rules just exceptions.

    So my questions are how do you differentiate between learned behaviour and true type, when they are so close? How do you experience the difference between t and f? How is the decision making for an F different from a T?
    p.s. examples would be great I am an S.
    Help!!!
    One of the ways is to think back to adolescence when theory says you would have been developing either T or F. Which came first?
    • It is more common for ESFPs to get blocked from learning in early years if they aren't sure a teacher likes them. Critique cuts to the quick and they may give up. ESTPs don't really like critique either but they aren't worried all the time about relationships...
    • ESTPs and ESFPs both want to DO things--be outside, run around, climb, etc. But ESTPs often want people along when they need them--for a team or to help row the boat or whatever. ESFPs are more about the relationships
    • You can think about whether adolescence was about critiquing life (what's wrong with everything) or inner reflection on authenticity (who you really wanted to be...). That is, if they sit still long enough...


    I'm not trying to be superficial but instead give prompts that might help you think about whether T or F emerged first--which is nature vs learned skill...
    edcoaching

  2. #12
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Posts
    325

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by booyalab View Post
    I've never known an ESFP to be "nice". They're usually a simple and small-scale brand of mean. "OMG IM GONNA CHEAT ON MY BF CUZ BOYS R DUM LOL"

    yeah, the esfps i know are all friendly, no matter if they like you or not. kind of hypocrites, be nice to you but talk behind your back......at least the estps don't make such an effort to make you believe they like you.

    i'm not saying all the esfps are like that, only the ones i know.

  3. #13
    Senior Member Rachelinpa's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    MBTI
    ENFP
    Socionics
    ENFp
    Posts
    878

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by am_i_evil666 View Post
    yeah, the esfps i know are all friendly, no matter if they like you or not. kind of hypocrites, be nice to you but talk behind your back......at least the estps don't make such an effort to make you believe they like you.

    i'm not saying all the esfps are like that, only the ones i know.
    I would agree with that mostly. I've seen ESFPs give the cold shoulder though... very noticeably. I wouldn't think an ESTP would be so concerned with this.

    In my experience, ESTPs do not bother putting on performances like the ESFP. ESFPs have to be the center of attention, whereas that does not seem to be the goal of the ESTP. It seems others are drawn to both personality extroverted types, but the ESFP cares or values it more than the ESTP.

  4. #14
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Posts
    325

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Rachelinpa View Post
    I would agree with that mostly. I've seen ESFPs give the cold shoulder though... very noticeably. I wouldn't think an ESTP would be so concerned with this.

    In my experience, ESTPs do not bother putting on performances like the ESFP. ESFPs have to be the center of attention, whereas that does not seem to be the goal of the ESTP. It seems others are drawn to both personality extroverted types, but the ESFP cares or values it more than the ESTP.
    God, YES!!!

    I can give an example of a real experience....there was this classmate of mine, an ESFP. She hanged out with almost everybody, including me and everytime she said things like "Oh, I like your bag, etc". I had the feeling that I got along pretty well with her, until one day that she included me on a list of persons she wouldn't like to be in class with. I was like "wtf, i thought you liked me". And then I found out how hypocritical she was.
    I also know other ESFPs who are very friendly with people they don't really like.
    Likes e.lee.sa liked this post

  5. #15
    homo-loving sonovagun anii's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    MBTI
    infp
    Enneagram
    9
    Socionics
    fuck
    Posts
    900

    Default

    ESTPs are all takin' and ESFPs are all givin'.
    There's reason to be afraid, and reason to open your heart. ~ Seal

    Refreshment for your ears: www.kexp.org

  6. #16
    Glowy Goopy Goodness The_Liquid_Laser's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    MBTI
    ENTP
    Posts
    3,377

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by anii View Post
    ESTPs are all takin' and ESFPs are all givin'.
    Neither one wants to work 9 to 5. What a way to make a livin'.
    My wife and I made a game to teach kids about nutrition. Please try our game and vote for us to win. (Voting period: July 14 - August 14)
    http://www.revoltingvegetables.com

  7. #17
    Junior Member
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    MBTI
    ESTP
    Posts
    2

    Default

    Oh Boy, I'm really confused! It sounds like most of you think esfp are not truthful and hypocrites...

    So how can you tell the difference between an f and and a t? if they both care about values?

  8. #18
    Senior Member edcoaching's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    7
    Posts
    752

    Default

    Did you read my post up above? If you're trying to decide whether you're ESTP or ESFP it's the place to start. If you're trying to decide that about other people, it's really hard.
    edcoaching

  9. #19
    Senior Member 563 740's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    MBTI
    ENTP
    Posts
    294

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Jack Flak View Post
    Interesting. I usually just use the MEAN/NICE litmus test for ESTP/ESFP.
    I find the ASSHOLE/DOUCHEBAG litmus to be much quicker.
    Extremes: Need To Pursue

    I like my cars fast, my music loud, and my women even faster and louder!

  10. #20
    Senior Member htb's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2007
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    1w9
    Posts
    1,506

    Default

    One of my closest friends is an ESTP. I regard him as Han Solo did Lando Calrissian. Can I trust him? No, but we've faced naysayers, worked hard and succeeded together. I'm not a mark because I am a friend, and even ESTPs need a few.

    ESFPs are shortchanged by one-dimensional type descriptions. They've got hearts of gold -- jaunty, sunny raconteurs, quite capable of solid reasoning and organized living. They would rather be a part than in the lead, and rather laugh than fuss.

Similar Threads

  1. [ENFJ] What's the difference between ENFJ and INFJ?
    By Glycerine in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 120
    Last Post: 06-29-2010, 08:19 PM
  2. What is the difference between INTP and INTJ?
    By Triglav in forum Myers-Briggs and Jungian Cognitive Functions
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 10-26-2009, 03:25 PM
  3. [ENFJ] What is the difference between ENTJ and ENFJ?
    By yenom in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 03-28-2009, 07:24 PM
  4. What's the difference between meritocracy and technocracy?
    By Ezra in forum Philosophy and Spirituality
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 05-04-2008, 07:21 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO