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Mild grunting, few words and full sentences only when neccessary.

Bella

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Do most introverts communicate like this and does the idea of a world without verbal communication not freak you out in the least.

(When I read about communication being the be-all and end-all of a relashionship I shudder, and wonder how the heck I'm gonna make it with someone!)
 

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It's entertaining to think about, but at first you have to talk more to set the foundation for later assumptions. Once the couple knows enough about each other about 80% of things could probably be communicated this way. It is, however, a good idea to maintain use of a full vocabulary and grammar as it still does end up useful.
 

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I've actually gotten to the point where I'll tell people "I don't want to have a conversation like that." instead of feigning mild interest.
 

Bella

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Now you've gone and ruined a possible friendship...
 

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I'd like to live in a world like that only if it only applied to people I don't like.
 

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I don't talk a whole lot. Just don't feel its always necessary to fill the air with sound and say whatever comes to mind. Sometimes I'm in a "chatty" mood but its not that severe. Hah
 

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Do most introverts communicate like this and does the idea of a world without verbal communication not freak you out in the least.

(When I read about communication being the be-all and end-all of a relashionship I shudder, and wonder how the heck I'm gonna make it with someone!)

Quality, not quantity. And introverts can really go off on the stuff they care about, especially in small groups.

Make sure you talk when you need to talk about something - and just find someone who does the same.

My wife and I got out for dinner once a week, and often end up spending at least one other night together. That's when we talk about all the major issues - money, relationships, stress, worries, etc. The rest of the time, we end up nattering on about the things we care about - my projects, her school work...

Introverts can talk, and often better than extraverts, least in small groups. The closer we are, the more we do.
 

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I don't talk a whole lot. Just don't feel its always necessary to fill the air with sound and say whatever comes to mind. Sometimes I'm in a "chatty" mood but its not that severe. Hah
There are certainly many ways to connect to others. I am dating an ISTJ however and I find it frustrating when another way to connect doesn't replace talking.
I can handle and even enjoy silence, but how about some occasional eye contact, for instance?
Can you offer any feedback on this?
 

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Yeah, you're right, there should be some replacement. I can almost imagine the scene. He's completely wrapped up in himself and doesn't let you in. If I'm right, he has bigger issues if I'm wrong - have you spoken to him about? You'll have to spell it out.

Or just grab him and sqeeeze him and loooooove him.
 

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We know there is such a thing as under-communicating but does anyone think there is such a thing as over-communicating?
 

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We know there is such a thing as under-communicating but does anyone think there is such a thing as over-communicating?

To a specific audience, yes. It really depends on the individuals concerned, and it is impossible to generalise. One man's golden silence, is another man's awkward pause.
 

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To a specific audience, yes. It really depends on the individuals concerned, and it is impossible to generalise. One man's golden silence, is another man's awkward pause.

What a dance.
 

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Do most introverts communicate like this and does the idea of a world without verbal communication not freak you out in the least.
Mm. Eh.

(When I read about communication being the be-all and end-all of a relashionship I shudder, and wonder how the heck I'm gonna make it with someone!)
Communication isn't just verbal.
 

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When I'm in a situation or conversation where I can tell that others expect me to be talkative, I do it, but mostly just to accommodate them. It literally takes too much energy out of me; when I'm done I give a huge sigh and lie down for a minute, and am generally a little annoyed.
batumi said:
I can handle and even enjoy silence, but how about some occasional eye contact, for instance?
Can you offer any feedback on this?
Just sounds like he's shy and nervous. Can't think of what to do to get things going, but I can tell what not to do, if you're really stumped. The situation doesn't really sound bad, though...
 

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Definitely grunting, especially after getting up in the mornings. After "waking up," full sentences are used.
 

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Yeah, you're right, there should be some replacement. I can almost imagine the scene. He's completely wrapped up in himself and doesn't let you in. If I'm right, he has bigger issues if I'm wrong - have you spoken to him about? You'll have to spell it out.

Or just grab him and sqeeeze him and loooooove him.

This.
 

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I do this on the phone and with small talk with strangers I think to be too peering, nosy, into my rigidness which is sometimes there for a reason and their wayward nosiness not! (People you meet at parties and hound you the one time you'll ever see them in your life anyone?)
 
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