Jennifer--thanks for that detailed, helpful reply! I will keep that in mind.
Lookin'--go to church.
No, but seriously, go to church. I don't care if you're an atheist, you have to meet some other ENFJs. These have always been the people involved in things like Youth Ministry, Counseling, Teaching English as a 2nd Language/helping new immigrants adapt to teh culture/etc.
They are bright and do the "people" jobs better than anyone else I know.
Specifically, my experience has seen them at social events. Not just "get together" social events, but purposeful, growing type social events. (i.e. the youth programs where they can mentor, or those women's groups where people share, etc.)
Seriously, go to church. You will not regret it. Do you have any religious beliefs? Aren't ENFJs most likely to believe in the higher power? (But hey, I won't stereotype, because you're talking to an INTJ, which is least likely.)