I'm not a counselor but as Tallulah said, keep thinking about the depression.
Originally Posted by INTJMom
As I understand learned helplessness it's when people give up because they don't see that their efforts are making any difference. They get zinged no matter what course they try. Learned helplessness, defined by Seligman (Learned optimism: How to change your mind and your life, 1998) as “… the giving-up reaction, the quitting response that follows from the belief that whatever you do doesn’t matter” (p. 15). His research with laboratory dogs showed that when the subjects had no control over shocks they received, they soon stopped trying and simply lay down once they realized their actions, such as jumping to get away, were futile.
When helplessness in people was studied, the biggest factor contributing to it was a lack of hope.
Whether or not we have hope depends on two dimensions of our explanatory style: pervasiveness and permanence. Finding temporary and specific causes for misfortune is the art of hope: Temporary causes limit helplessness in time, and specific causes limit helplessness to the original situation. On the other hand, permanent causes produce helplessness far into the future, and universal causes spread helplessness through all your endeavors. Finding permanent and universal causes for misfortune is the practice of despair (Seligman, 1998, p. 48).
Another way to look at it is finding one's way out of learned helplessness is figuring out what you can control.
I'm just supplying a definition here--it's something to be talked through with someone close to home who can help you sort it out. I wouldn't dare try to be more helpful than suggesting you seek out someone to help you with it.