I have a small group of introverted friends with whom I go regularly to an establishment for a few beers. It has free WiFi, so we all bring our laptops. Sometimes we are all busy in our inner worlds and don't talk with each other for minutes at a time. You would be surprised how many people feel they need to make comments about us and to us.
What's wrong with you? Why do you bring your computers here? Why aren't you talking to each other? Why aren't you socializing?
We get that almost every time we are there, either from well-meaning regulars and wait staff whom we know ... or sometimes even complete strangers. Ironically, we are not the only ones doing that. There are introverts here and there with their laptops, quietly taking in the ambience and doing their own things.
I've been told by more than one extraverted friend that there is something "wrong" with me because I like to bring my laptop to our get-togethers. I am told that it is a time for socialization, and not to have my head down in a computer. I am told that people "need" to interact with others. Funny, I am never told that people "need" solitude to re-energize. I get into some pretty lively discussions with my extraverted friends on this topic. They see my passion for introversion as further proof that there is something "wrong" with me. After all, why would I get so upset over something as normal as socialization?
Another corollary is that many people assume that if I am on my laptop, that I am "working." Why are you working here? ... I get asked frequently. For some reason, they cannot comprehend that some people enjoy interacting with computers and the online world.
At any rate, I am comfortable in my own skin. Just sometimes I wish I could tell the extraverts ... Why are you so loud? Why can you not tolerate silence? You should try concentating for longer periods. ... and so forth. I would, but then again ... I am an introvert
Damn, you're so right! My grandmother always pressure me to plunge in social groups and when I shifted to another college course, she asked me if I had friends in school(I only have a few close ones). I think she thinks I shifted because I don't have friends in that course which is a very shallow reason for shifting to another course.
Also, I don't like to repeat things I've said to people whatever that thing may be.
[QUOTE=Nighthawk;21641]I have a small group of introverted friends with whom I go regularly to an establishment for a few beers. It has free WiFi, so we all bring our laptops. Sometimes we are all busy in our inner worlds and don't talk with each other for minutes at a time. You would be surprised how many people feel they need to make comments about us and to us.
We have the same situation, only that it involves books and the library. I have a group of friends with 3 introverts(including me)and 1 extrovert. We would pick the genre we like and my introvert friends and I quietly read...until my extrovert friend would talk about what she'd read. I hate what she's doing, because she interrupted me as I was intent on reading and also, I don't like what she'd read.
"How dreadful!" cried Lord Henry. "I can stand brute force, but brute reason is quite unbearable. There is something unfair about its use. It is hitting below the intellect." ~ Oscar Wilde - The picture of Dorian Gray